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Caz72
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25 Sep 2022, 1:15 pm

i doubt my husband is gay and his friend definitely isnt gay

but his friend has recently divorced

i suppose blokes can be best friends and they both grew up together so there like brothers..my husband was an only child so i think he saw his best friend as a brother

me and my husband were always bickering and i think my meltdowns took a toll on him

now that its got all over the workplace several men are asking me if they can date me :roll: some even said they will pay me to have one night with me but i said NO im not doing that again like i did 20 years ago no way


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25 Sep 2022, 1:21 pm

Yes you're wise not to go down that route again Caz72.

There are things you can do if you feel like you're being harassed in the workplace by the way. But I'm sure you can handle this.


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25 Sep 2022, 2:41 pm

they just fancy me because of the way i look or something but if i say i am beautiful im afraid people might call me bigheaded but im not i.say things how it is..my profile picture is just me without makeup

iv have been doing things i enjoy since iv been alone like trying on all my different clothes just to pose in front of the mirror i like doing that

and cooking lovely meals for me and my son..we watched a movie together last night it was nice he was in with me

single life is actually ok but i dont think i want to be in a relationship again i just want to be alone but have my son of course but other than him be alone

i love being alone as i am my own best friend


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25 Sep 2022, 2:48 pm

It's good that you're thinking this way Caz72.

Sounds like you're finding out who you are again.


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25 Sep 2022, 3:05 pm

Change the locks, and make sure you protect your financial assets.
If you have any joint accounts, separate them now.
You'll likely need proof of your separation date for things like your taxes.
Keep track of the paper trail.



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25 Sep 2022, 3:21 pm

That guy who said he’d “pay” is a creep-jerk.

WTF?



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25 Sep 2022, 3:45 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
That guy who said he’d “pay” is a creep-jerk.

WTF?


just desperation on their part..they seem to think women would do anything for money

im a menopausal middle ager im not going to go sleeping around for money..im not the young druggie alcoholic whore i used to be no way will i do any of that now

about 20 men want to date me aghh just why not leave me alone im not boasting by the way


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25 Sep 2022, 3:55 pm

I don't think it is your looks alone that men are wanting to date you as though you are quite pretty, I think it is your kind hearted character as they would need to be pretty shallow men to ask you out just because of your looks.

The guy offering you money was probably saying it as a prank to make you feel happy about yourself. If he was serious than he should ideally be reported because men should never act like that.
Also the other guys who want to date... A decent man hangs back and gives a lady time. The ones trying to ask you out are either desperately lonely or are acting solely on sexual impulse as decent men will not do that and consider your feelings first.


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25 Sep 2022, 3:59 pm

Even when I was “desperate,” I would never offer to pay a woman for my company.

For some reason, I sense Caz’s husband will want to go back with her. He just might know he made a mistake.



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25 Sep 2022, 4:15 pm

First off, sorry for what you're going through. It's really miserable and I hope things get better soon.

Second, I want to reiterate what's been said above. Any men who move in immediately knowing your situation are not nice people. Men who'd offer to pay you knowing what you're going through are just morons, whether it's intended as a joke or not.

I hope there are at least some men around you who will show you concern and (platonic) love without the expectation of anything in return.


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25 Sep 2022, 5:30 pm

there is one guy i know and he is autistic like me and he seems very respectful unlike the others who are undoubtedly neurotypicals

some men at work hate me and call me hitler because im arrogant and bossy but other men just see me as a beautiful single woman and are queuing for some

i feel sorry for the other lady at work because none of them look at her but its not like i lead them on because i dont

if i do want to date again i will go for the autistic guy..he is single and lonely but doesnt pester like the others do


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25 Sep 2022, 11:01 pm

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26 Sep 2022, 6:22 pm

Caz72 wrote:
thanks people

but i will be all right

i dont really know what emotion to feel or how im feeling really
anyone else find that hard? like what am i suppose to feel ?


You don't feel emotion after a breakup? anger? sadness? regret? happiness? had you two been growing apart for a while?



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26 Sep 2022, 7:43 pm

Caz72 wrote:

about 20 men want to date me aghh just why not leave me alone


How do they all know about the breakup?
Didn't it just happen?



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27 Sep 2022, 4:44 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
Caz72 wrote:

about 20 men want to date me aghh just why not leave me alone


How do they all know about the breakup?
Didn't it just happen?


its happened for a while now and word got around at work as my husband used to work there so knows a lot of the men there and you know how fast gossip travels


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27 Sep 2022, 7:00 am

Caz72 wrote:
thanks people

but i will be all right

i dont really know what emotion to feel or how im feeling really
anyone else find that hard? like what am i suppose to feel ?


That sounds normal, you are probably numb and as we're on a forum for autistic people, I expect most of us don't know how to feel after a major event like that. :heart:


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