Why do people ask this question?

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!	magz wrote:
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Sometimes you are just different but are told that you have problems and must change.

Give advice if a person asks for it. I never do it unless I am asked to.

Ah that makes sense, thanks!

It

1. makes me experience shadenfreude(joy at misery of others)
2. forges emotional bond over similar misery
3. validates me as an autistic person or perhaps just as a person when I learn that others in this group are like that too

Most of the time, just a simple answer "it do be like that you are not alone and I feel that pain too" is THE solution, it calms you down immediately.

This is opposed to answer such as "I literally don't know what you're talking about and I never felt like this" which increases feelings of inadequacy and alienation

Since thoughts and feelings aren't material, they can't be measured or weighed, or otherwise observed. Thus, it's easy to lose track of them and feel like they aren't actually real. Having someone else experience the same thoughts and feelings is insta grounding, it's a living, talking evidence that these feelings actually do exist.

Last but not least, if enough autistic people say "YES WE DO" this gets you on the right track, so to speak. You realize that this issue of yours is probably autistic issue, and not adhd issue, bpd issue, schizophrenia issue, or otherwise connected to some other mental disorder. Thus you can begin approaching it and trying to fix it(if it really bothers you) taking ASD specific tactics and attitudes.

Something could be a function of autism without being part of the diagnostic criteria per se

For example, excretory problems allegedly occur in autistics a lot more often than in neurotypicals, but excretory problems are not necessary for an autism diagnosis

Knowing someone else with the same problem:. Solidarity, camaraderie, advice

People ask this question because they feel like they're the only person in the whole world who has a certain problem and finding out they aren't is at least some degree of relief.

For example I used to think I was the only person who used to find the old logos that appeared at the end of prime-time TV shows from the 60s to the 80s and sometimes the 90s really creepy or even downright terrifying. But I found out on YouTube many other people were afraid of them as well. There's even a wiki for Nightmare Logos, where they rate the the amount of nightmare fuel and have links to many logos to see if you're brave enough.