I keep crushing on fictional characters

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Okay, so I'm in my later 30s, and I'm pretty sure my dream guys don't exist because they're fictional characters. I want someone who is my opposite and who can make up for what I'm not, and in my case that's a funny successful guy who's probably some kind of spy or con-artist. Fictional characters like John Wick, Sherlock Holmes, James Bond, Stanley Ipkiss, Alfred Pennyworth, Bruce Wayne, and Jack Napier fit the ticket, but you know, I'm probably not going to find people who are like that in real life, and if I do, there's a good chance they won't be interested me. Any tips on making my expectations more realistic, or should I just let my geek flag fly and look for places likely to have people who are interested in the things I'm interested in (hopefully to the point of having a secret spy lair in the basement)?

In that case, any ideas on where to look? I'm low-key afraid of being instantly rejected when people find out what a nerd I am.

I am also like you and in my 30s! I wish i could give you some advice but there doesn't seem to be any men that have the same interests as me

Spy could be something you're guy role-plays for you at home or in the bedroom.. just saying - maybe it's more of a kink that turns you on vs. having to actually find a real life spy. You're attracted to fictional spies, anyways, sooo what difference would it make if your partner acted the part instead of lived it 24/7 ? Or maybe he's a major James Bond nerd and doesn't mind one iota keeping up the ruse in conversation and just acting, to you, like he IS a spy in real life.. even if his cover job is working down at a local shop.

Just sayin'.. there might be ways you can make this happen and enjoy it.

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Yeah, happened a lot when I was younger.

Now, did I have a crush on Molly Millions? Actually, I think not. But there were others.

I will admit, I found some game characters attractive, LOL. I need a boyfriend.

Oh gosh, I'm sorry, I wish I knew where to look for friends! I'd love to find a 'world' for myself where everyone had the same interests as me but I never did! (now aged 53)

I would guess Cosplay or something if you have a vivid imagination? But I've looked up cosplay and personally it's too far away for me and too expensive. Everything seems to be monetised these days and not just 'a few friends dressing up and having a laugh.'

This doesn't sound like role-play fantasy to me.

Fictional characters open up to us in ways that real people often don't. We share very intimate moments with them and are often given deep insight into their psyches in a way that is probably quite similar to what happens in deep, long term relationships.

So if we struggle to make those relationships in real life, fictional characters can probably provide some sort of substitute. They might also give us license to fill in the blanks around them that the authors haven't done for us. The danger in doing that is that we create 'perfect' people that are actually just ourselves mirrored back. It's only a problem if that leads you to discount real people for not being perfect.