My dog passed away today

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My dog passed away today. I know I should feel sad, logically thinking I know I would be and I am I guess. But I don't really feel it. Death has never really been something I fully understand I guess.
The thing that's hitting hardest is knowing how much this will change now. My dog has been a constant in my life for 14 years. And now she's gone things are different and I know so many things in the future will change. And I don't like it. But I feel like that's not what should be making me feel bad.
I don't really know what to think. Right now I guess I'm fine. Things feel just the same as this morning. I feel like my family seemed sad. We buried her and stood around her for a bit. But I didn't really feel anything from it. Whereas I know my siblings did. My parents have said if I feel sad I can come to them. But I don't feel sad about that. I just don't know how to deal with no longer having a dog around and I'm not going to tell them that.
All I can think about is how much I want another dog, just to have a dog around again. Which again feels wrong. I shouldn't be thinking that this soon should I. Does anyone understand? I haven't been diagnosed with autism. I don't know if I'm just being heartless

Maybe it depends how much of a bond you had with that particular dog. I've had a number over the years and only felt really bonded with a couple of them. When my German Shepherd died a number of years ago I was heartbroken as he was a great companion on long walks and we had a rapport. When our black Labrador died I didn't miss him at all or feel sad.

Just because it feels wrong does not make it wrong, whose metric are you using? Get a new puppy, you know you want to

I don't understand, but I am gutted for you. Grief affects everyone differently, maybe it hasn't sunk in yet?

I don't believe you are heartless for feeling the way you do.

Sweet Pea hugs

You've had your dog for a long time. Has she been having any health issues? If she was dealing with some health issues & needing a bit of special care, you've probably realized her death was coming & her death could seem almost like a relief. We've lost a few pets over the last 10 years & some were kinda recues that we didn't have for very long. Some deaths were a lot easier to handle than others. Plus as others have mentioned, grief affects everyone differently.

In regards to wanting a new dog, sometimes people get new pets rite after a pet dies. I'd suggest not bringing up the subject for a week thou to let your family grieve but if someone else brings it up or you have a good opertunity to get a pet, you could explain how you feel.

If it was my dog, I would have cried my eyes out for a few minutes. That's just me, though.

I'm crying just from the thread title. My dog will turn 12 this week and it's something that I dread ever confronting.

That doesn't mean your feelings are wrong. You love the idea of having a dog. You want a dog. You miss having a dog. That means you ARE grieving and hurting even if it seems different from your other family members.

When one of my cats was hit by a car I found another one almost identical the next day.
People said it was wrong but it felt right to me, to fill the space.
Do what feels right.

Sweet Pea hugs

I never been much of a crier except for when my depression was really bad. About the only time I majorly cried for the death of a pet was when my girlfriend put her cat to sleep cuz she was having kidney failure. I cried because of how badly my girlfriend was hurting. Plus my gf had asked for my opinion before offically making the decision. She will always feel awful about doing that & will never forgive herself I kinda hate myself too but I can analize & know logically that it was the best choice. I feel more like crying for deaths if I can see others are really hurting even if I don't know the people or if I see animals grieving for a loss but I manage to contain myself. I never had a close relationship with any person who died. For my other pet deaths I felt more anger. I know I coulda & shoulda been a better pet parent even if they still woulda died then. I wanted to smash something, scream, & cry all at the same time but I end up doing neither of that. Maybe I'm too held together by my psych meds. I read an article a few years ago about how short-term use of antidepressants can help some people handle grief or turbulant life events like a serious relationship suddently ending. The antidepressants can help hold people together while they're figuring out how to cope. A bit of us here are on psych meds, I don't know if you are OP but if you are that might could be a factor.

My Sympathies on the passing of your dog , when and if we grieve it usually comes in our own times ….