kraftiekortie wrote:
I thought, when I lost my virginity, that I would, all of a sudden, “be a man.” All my inadequacies would disappear.
It turned out to be a pipe dream.
I’m lucky the experience wasn’t bad…..but it would have been much better had we loved each other. I was just a substitute for another person that day.
Inadequacies won't disappear but the ever tormenting monkey on the shoulder of a lot of virgins will disappear. I've read stories about virgin women who wanted to be raped and men who want to kill themselves over virginity. I just don't see the point in holding on to their virginity if it effects them so badly.
Nobody even really knows the importance (or lack of) when it comes to virginity anyway. People say it's important to keep while simultaneously saying virginity doesn't mean anything and shouldn't be dwelled on. It doesn't make sense and the arguments for remaining a virgin are more often than not contradictory and nonsensical.
Sex with complete strangers and women I know much more closely feels the same to me. Nothing beats a bit of goofing off with strangers as I find them more open and confident. Women I know much better are closer but usually less open.
Also it's good to be able to say you're not a virgin if you're in your 20s to 30s though I find people just start probing you as to who and how you lost it.