How Do/Would Therapists Feel About A "Perfect" Patient?

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A good therapist would probably be suspicious if a patient reacts "perfectly" to him/her.

In the UK, they recommend CBT for people on the spectrum. It's mentioned in the autism guide for therapists.

To the OP, not sure how a therapist would feel about a perfect patient. Relief, perhaps? They won't have to put much effort into doing their job.

For a few years I went to a therapist experienced with young-adult clientele on the Autism Spectrum.

I strongly feel that therapists "worth their salt" (as with my experience) would spend very little (if any) time on considering just what makes a "perfect client."

Trying to do therapy with the idea that you are expected to do certain things and not others is not really engaging with the therapy. A therapist can only help if a client is willing to work with themselves. Having an antagonistic relationship with the therapist is just a non starter.
I would suggest looking inside yourself for why you feel certain things are expected of you. Perhaps you are projecting some internal issue onto the therapist. It may also help to read up on "transference".
At the very least one should be honest enough with the therapist to say exactly how you feel about the therapy. And then be open to working through that with them.

My point is that the relationship with a therapist is NOT a relationship with an authority figure. I can understand that might be the feeling one has if you are being forced into doing therapy. But to my mind that kind of arrangement is not great to start with.

A therapist is someone you are paying to help you with understanding the relationship between what is happening inside you and what is happening in your outer life in the world. Feeling that the therapist is an authority figure rather than a helper is going to skew the results that are possible.
There certainly are a spectrum of therapists, from good to bad. And if the therapist doesn't understand autism, that can be a huge issue. In such a case being honest about it with them is probably the best idea.
That aside, your attitude going into therapy is yours. You can change it as you wish. Without a sense of cooperation between therapist and client, there is no point in continuing. The relationship is the most important thing.

Please realise I am not being judgemental here. I have experienced the same feelings myself. In my case I finally managed to see that my feeling that the therapist was an authority had more to do with how s**t I felt about myself, than with the therapist. I was putting myself lower than him. Once I saw that how I felt about myself coloured everything in my life, I began to improve. The relationship with the therapist is precisely a tool for understanding that, so we can move forward.

Probably someone who always pays their bill.