What do autistics actually like to do on major birthdays?

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DanielW
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28 Nov 2022, 7:55 pm

Do what you'd like its YOUR birthday. I don't celebrate mine exactly, but if there is something I want to do, I'll do it. I don't do Surprise parties...anyone who tries to throw one in my honor is no friend of mine as it shows just how little they know me or care about my feelings. In general, I try to keep the day as low-key as possible because thats what I like.



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28 Nov 2022, 8:01 pm

hmm, I've never had a desire to do anything super special or fancy. 30th birthday was the same as any other. 18th and 21st were when life was pretty Bad for me so those weren't much. maybe if I'd been in a better place they would have been? I dunno. I was a lot less Tired then lol so maybe. perhaps I'll change my mind for future "major" birthdays but who really knows



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11 Dec 2022, 8:02 pm

I would like to travel and see art museums.

But here, at most my partner.

I remember previous birthdays, the most important day for me is the next one

I don't feel it necessary, I don't understand parties, noise, ceremonies.

I remembered my last party earlier.

I was 7 years old

A classmate of mine opens the door for me.

They were glad I went.

They didn't expect it.


The strange thing is that I erased my memories of him and they stopped at that precise moment, he was truly a beautiful person.

Now it's gone.

Last month I took yet another plane.

And I visited my parents' graves, among the new ones was his.

I don't even know what happened to him.
He was so young.



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11 Dec 2022, 8:12 pm

Just something downplayed and casual such as a country walkor visit a castle or a beach.
Don't like lots of people around. Just a few such as family. Don't like the party atmosphere. Prefer going somewhere where I can have a walk and buy an ice cream or something nice to eat to eat out (Prefer to buy some sort of takaway meal one can eat in an outdoor place where I can have space rather than eat in a crowded indoor place).
No idea if I am on the spectrum as not been assessed, but the above I prefer. Hate surprize birthday parties or being sung "Happy birthday" to because prefer to be a low key thing where I can just go to somewhere scenic with family or people I am close to.



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13 Dec 2022, 3:12 am

We like to go to a hot springs resort. Everybody loves swimming and it feels relaxing. Never hosted a big party. We usually like museums, too.


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13 Dec 2022, 3:29 am

On my 30th I locked myself in a room for the day, and even peed in a juice bottle. I played Night in the Woods to pass the time, fittingly it's a coming of age story.


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13 Dec 2022, 4:01 am

Generally i hate the idea of bd-party, as child i dreaded going to them and never had one
hub mostly had them, but my parents came always for my birthday-and stay over so that destroyed the idea anyway
i don't like the sitting and chatting, somehow i lose my chair(standing) while catering
or you have (i always have) people blabbering on to you, nt's don't take hints imo, and as a polite? person i don't know how to stop that



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13 Dec 2022, 5:08 am

mostly my bdays come and go without observance other than saying "happy birthday :) " to myself in the mirror then getting back into my normal daily routine. this year i had a post-birthday celebration at a local pizza restaurant then when given a gift certificate for a local grocery chain, went on a food-shopping spree, buying fancy foods i normally avoid due to cost. so this year's birthday belatedly was custom :heart:



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13 Dec 2022, 10:02 am

I wanted a big party for my 30th birthday but that was right in the midst of the first covid lockdowns so that was completely out of the question.


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13 Dec 2022, 6:50 pm

Do something you enjoy.

Even if it's playing video games. It's your day, enjoy it.

For my 50th, I think it may have involved a few friends. I really don't remember. I've never been big on milestone stuff. Each year isn't necessarily more important than the last or the next.


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