Buying into NT programming

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What part of "I agree with you" don't you understand?

The option is there for those Aspies who do want to make NT friends outside of WP. That would be most.

You'll have to be patient with me. I used up most of my energy trying to survive the heat.

#Me too

Yep, it likely would have been a different life experience if I had known why I was sanding off basically everything about me that stood out and becoming more or less a grey man before bolting on features to help me succeed. I'm not entirely sure if it would have been better for me over all, but it would have been less problematic in terms of being a soon to be mid-40s married man who has basically no idea who he really is.

I do think that unlike being in the closet for other things that some degree of masking is pretty much mandatory if you want to get anything done in public in a world that's set up for NT as even if they are being very tolerant, it still is a drag to have to work through the communications issues that are likely to crop up.

(Though I will admit that being a 200+ lbs., man that seemingly appears out of nowhere is kind of cool sometimes)

Same here, I've seriously considered trying to talk my boss into letting me rent out one of the corners of the dairy cooler to live in during the summer. I miss having a legitimate reason to be in there for hours out of the day, and as long as I didn't touch too much stuff, it was very comfortable.

Fortunately, I'm lucky enough to have an airconditioner for my bedroom so that at least I can get some sleep during the summer. It hit 110F last year for the first time and fortunately, it's not likely to be quite that hot any time soon, but really anything in the 70s and up can make us stupid.

I wish someone would have told that to my Pennsylvania Dutch family.
It didn’t matter if it was something mental or developmental: you’re flat out lazy and deserve nothing. As it is written in the New Testament book of Timothy “Those who don’t work, don’t get to eat.”

It's also mentioned in Thessalonians
2 Thessalonians 3:10-12
King James Version
10 For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat.

I dunno, in my case I don't think I've "bought into NT programming" as you put it. I more study it as an explorer might study what's in the noggins of the natives. Then I just try to remember that they're different in some ways, and behave accordingly so I don't go and wipe my nose on their sacred rice paper or turn their holy cow into beefsteaks. But those things will never be truly sacred to me, only to them. I see some of it from their point of view but I don't adopt that view as a replacement for my own.

I don't quite know what this "logotherapy" is. Me, I just accept that I have to be practical and not spend too much time crying over spilt milk. But if I don't like a thing, I won't embrace it. I might pretend to, but in my heart of hearts I still won't like it, and if I ever get the chance to neutralise it, I'll consider doing that. I guess that this "logotherapy" targets people who are habitually dwelling on problems they have no immediate solution to, prolonging their agony. Clearly that's unhealthy, beyond the reasonable expression of feelings of frustration. But maybe I misunderstand the matter.

What you're saying is "everybody has to be a house n****r in order to survive"(regardless of your skin color, or your neurology) . Which...I totally agree with! You have to adapt to society because society aint gonna adapt to you.

https://youtu.be/lj66AQ2uzug

Sorry, i probably didn't articulate myself in a subject area I'm not an expert in. The one principle Vicktor Frankel made from his own person experience that is relevant to autistic people is this one

All humans have the capacity to a find meaning. A meaning to any circumstances in life, even the most absurd and painful ones.

I feel Frankel's insight suggests that there is purpose for all of us. NTs (regardless of cultural background) all value people who live with purpose that benefits wider society in some way.

There is no judgement. So long as the person accepts they have limitations (whatever it might be) that they find something purposeful in life that helps others. It doesn't have ot be unconditional or altruistic (I mean it can be a paid job) but NT programming is that we must all find our place in the village.

Pretty much. There is some overlap in your analogy. African Americans had capacity to contribute to American society. The irony is placing them in 2nd class status was harmful to America's development as a country.

Same with people with autism, they have capacity to contribute more than they are sometimes permitted. But here's the thing if you find that there are barriers you can't remove, you maximise your potential with those constraints. NT programming is literally that.