Dating his dead partners daughter weird or not?

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17 Jan 2023, 1:01 pm

I know this guy who is 52 that had a relationship with a woman who died last July aged 81 of cancer. Now she’s dead he is in a romantic relationship with the old ladies daughter who is 60.

I know everyone is entitled to date who they want to but do you think that is kind of weird/wrong of him to do that?

He also had a relationship with the women’s daughter prior to dating her mother years ago.



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17 Jan 2023, 1:13 pm

Read Thomas Hardy’s The Well-Beloved.


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17 Jan 2023, 2:03 pm

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17 Jan 2023, 2:29 pm

When I read the tittle I was thinking this might be a situation I'd see on the ID(Investigation Discovery) Channel where the stepdad decides to murder his wife for the money & so he can date his stepdaughter. That plot seems fairly common on those real-life murder shows. People disgust me sometimes.


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17 Jan 2023, 2:36 pm

Not weird. I don't think there should be any rules with dating between two consenting adults (unless one is cheating in another relationship).

Having an affair before the mother died is a little disrespectful though.


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17 Jan 2023, 4:47 pm

In the Hardy novel he falls in love with three generations. Grandmother, Mother, Daughter.

It's actually one of my favourite novels, as weird as the topic may sound.


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17 Jan 2023, 4:56 pm

Jamesy wrote:
do you think that is kind of weird/wrong of him to do that?


Yeah, I find it weird but not enough to explain.


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17 Jan 2023, 5:12 pm

I agree. That's not why I loved the novel. It was just well-written and the male character was very autistic.

I can't say why it's wrong, and intellectually it's not wrong, but meh -- not my thing at all.


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17 Jan 2023, 6:53 pm

Is it weird for a 52 year old to date an 81 year old?


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17 Jan 2023, 6:54 pm

RetroGamer87 wrote:
Is it weird for a 52 year old to date an 81 year old?




Yes I’d say it is



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17 Jan 2023, 7:13 pm

If you aren't one of the two people in the relationship, then why do you care?



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17 Jan 2023, 7:24 pm

Jamesy wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
Is it weird for a 52 year old to date an 81 year old?




Yes I’d say it is


Why?


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17 Jan 2023, 7:39 pm

DanielW wrote:
If you aren't one of the two people in the relationship, then why do you care?

You mean three people. Mom's ghost is still watching, judging.

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17 Jan 2023, 8:09 pm

I think it's weird. That would make the woman he goes on to date his step daughter pretty much. It seems unfathomable to me that he'd even see her that way.

Sure, there's no blood relation, but dating the woman who your previous date gave birth to? Assuming she was the birth mother. Yeah. That's odd to me.


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18 Jan 2023, 12:41 pm

Joe90 wrote:
Not weird. I don't think there should be any rules with dating between two consenting adults (unless one is cheating in another relationship).

Having an affair before the mother died is a little disrespectful though.
Hypothetically, I would be worried about grooming if he became her stepdad before she was an adult like if he was her stepdad while she was in high-school. I agree with you for the most part thou.


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18 Jan 2023, 12:50 pm

It reminds me of that song:

I am my own grandpa.


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