How To Get A Girlfriend If You're An Autistic Man

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First of all, not once have I made a single claim about my own social skills. At most, I said OTHER members here have good social skills. I have gone out of my way to avoid mention of my own level of social aptitude, one way or the other. It wouldn't matter if I did, you'd just claim I'm wrong, and don't actually have any. Lo and behold...

Second of all, even if I have them, I'm not obligated to use them. I ain't trying to be ya f*ckin friend here. Nor am I trying to win people over or be popular, at this particular moment in time. If I was, then I might turn the charm on. But for the time being, that is not my objective. Besides, while YOU might not like what I have to say, other members seem to agree to some extent, if not actually like what I have to say.

Third, EVEN IF I have bad social skills, at least I WOULD ACKNOWLEDGE that my lack of success is due to poor social skills, and don't feel compelled to blame "women" or "society" or even "muh autism" for it.

Also, surely you see the irony in calling someone else "stubborn", while desperately clinging to the idea that "autistic people just CAN'T have social skills!! !"

And...



This is basically how you're reacting right now. Except instead of "women", you're aimed at me. Call it a "snide jab" all you want, but the shoe seems to fit. I say "personality", you say "looks!", I say "personality", you say "nothing can be done!", I say "PERSONALITY!", you say "how dare you!" - you're literally following the script I wrote.

If YOU have bad social skills, and YOU can't improve them, no matter what YOU do, that's YOUR situation, and YOUR problem. You don't need to drag ALL autistics down into the pit(y) of despair along with you.

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And yet you feel confident determining that I don't, or can't, have social skills, under these same circumstances? C'mon now...

'Scuse me if men treating women like "things" pisses me off and makes me act less "social". Especially when these same men are trying to f*ck "date" the very women they talk so much s**t about.

"PLEASE AND KINDLY, good sirs and fine gentlemen, I cordially request that you do attempt to refrain from treating women like sex-meat."

Is that better?

I hear these sad sob stories all day long from guys who have tried nothing, and are "all out of ideas". Just look at the crap being said. One guy says it's impossible to appeal to women cos "every woman is different!" and "its impossible to know what they want", until someone mentions "hypergamy" in which case "all women are the same!" and "its obvious what they all want" - and in either case, it's the WOMEN's fault! For being so different, and similar, and for wanting all kinds of unknowable mystery things, or wanting specific things you're totally certain of like looks and cars and muscles! Meanwhile...

"Ill try anything to date a girl!"

Personality!

"EXCEPT THAT!! ! F**K YOU!! ! WHY DOESN'T ANYONE LIKE ME?!"

Excuses excuses excuses...

It's a mystery!

Two shoes make a pair.

It's a wee bit ironic, yet again, the way you're accusing me of shoving words into people's mouths, as you unilaterally declare that I must not like you for being an autistic man, that I wouldn't be this way if you were a woman, or that I wouldn't be this way if you were NT.

I too am an autistic man, so that just seems weird. I have separate issues with the way some women behave, which are irrelevant to the discussion of men getting a girlfriend and are more related to said women getting a boyfriend - and more importantly do not apply to ALL women, or even most women, but merely some women. If you'd like to know what those issues are, you can always ask. But you don't ask questions - too busy making claims. And if you think I'd expect any less of NT men, or any other human being, you're sadly mistaken.

You shoved plenty into my mouth. All I said was going to the gym makes people better looking and autisitcs are limited with their social skills regardless of how hard they try (which is true)

And I think that sounds like an excuse to not even try, no matter how true it is.

Also, that is NOT "all you said". You said autistics CAN'T be as good with social skills as NT's are - which is a slap in the face to all the autistics here who do have good social skills (better than many NTs in some cases, just as good in many more) and worked really hard to gain those skills.

I too am an autistic man, so that just seems weird. I have separate issues with the way some women behave, which are irrelevant to the discussion of men getting a girlfriend and are more related to said women getting a boyfriend - and more importantly do not apply to ALL women, or even most women, but merely some women. If you'd like to know what those issues are, you can always ask.

Well you need to look more into what an autism diagnosis entails.

I thought you dislike the approach of "I am disabled, so I will just sit and do nothing about my life" quite strongly?

To be clear: I don't find the advice "to hit the gym" wrong, especially if it resulted in improving one's general health.
But one can't form a healthy relationship if they completely neglect building social skills. 1:1 social skills tend to be easier to autistics than big group social skills.

Workout should not make take more than one hour, and I don't think it should be more than 3 days a week. More than that it's excessive.

Do I act as if gym consumes an entire day of the 24 hours?

You'd lay into Issy if they made a comment like that.

Working out more than three days a week is not excessive. It all depends on the kind of workouts one does. I agree they should not be lengthy.