Not wanting to date people in your own league!

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Jamesy
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22 Jan 2023, 12:55 pm

Is it quite common for not so attractive people to dislike dating those who are in are in there own league?



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22 Jan 2023, 1:01 pm

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22 Jan 2023, 1:04 pm

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Why do you think that is?



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22 Jan 2023, 1:08 pm

I think we all imagine that we are more attractive than we actually are.

Humans are weird.



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22 Jan 2023, 1:10 pm

Jamesy wrote:
Nades wrote:
Yes



Why do you think that is?


Everyone likes a 10 out of 10 but few people are. Most are in the average range and for many people average just isn't enough.

I've seen it a few times were people think they're more attractive than they actually are.



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22 Jan 2023, 2:21 pm

I'm not sure leagues exist, but if your 'romantic endevours' all involve crushes on people who won't ever reciprocate it's easy to start believing they do.

Have you ever actually engaged with someone who wanted more engagement in the future? If someone reciprocates interest, that means they're potentially a viable partner.

If every unrequited crush is counted of course there will be all sorts of people 'out of your league', but that doesn't mean every single good looking person won't ever reciprocate interest.

But yes, generally people don't want to date people they consider to have lower worth than themselves. They usually want equals, or at least near-equals. If they're ambitious, they won't settle for someone without ambition. If they're hot, they might not settle for someone who isn't. If they're smart or wealthy or whatever, they probably want someone who isn't too far off from them in that regard.

Not always, but often.


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22 Jan 2023, 2:50 pm

Oh yeah and the other leagues too. If someone's relatively good looking, smartish and fairly successful then by all means, they can pick and choose but if not, they certainly shouldn't be picky.



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22 Jan 2023, 2:57 pm

My boyfriend isn't drop-dead handsome but he is decently attractive

I wouldn't call myself drop-dead gorgeous but I am decently pretty

I actually prefer to date people in my own league because I don't have high standards when it comes to dating


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22 Jan 2023, 7:10 pm

Jamesy wrote:
Is it quite common for not so attractive people to dislike dating those who are in are in there own league?
Common, yes.  Futile, but common.


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22 Jan 2023, 7:15 pm

'League'?

Man, you're stuck.

I have never, ever met anyone who still uses this, concept.

It's outdated, havent you heard?

That like bird bird bird is the word?

People date who they like. Or who they put effort into dating. Most people don't put effort into dating. Those are the ugly ones.

Besides, I still have yet to meet anyone who is ugly.

Even severe burn victims still get there's.

And paraplegics.

I better go. I'm sure this posts ignorance had harmed someones day, and that makes me mad :skull:

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22 Jan 2023, 7:27 pm

I don't play baseball so I dated off-league.



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22 Jan 2023, 7:35 pm

I've always punched above my weight - it's a necessity for scum like me :twisted:


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22 Jan 2023, 7:45 pm

People who play guitar are free agents.



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23 Jan 2023, 12:41 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
People who play guitar are free agents.


Does that mean pansexual guitar players are unrestricted free agents? 8O


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23 Jan 2023, 12:55 am

funeralxempire wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
People who play guitar are free agents.


Does that mean pansexual guitar players are unrestricted free agents? 8O


Yes, yes it does. :!:



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24 Jan 2023, 3:22 pm

I think lots of cases on this forum have to do with Projecting. The person feels bad for having those qualities & projects their negative opinion onto others who have similar qualities.


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