Seeing young women around is so painful...

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I'm 42 ,never had a gf. it's so painful to see all these cute young girls around.
Went close to a university area this morning, and felt so bad and depressed... Today it was a particular warm day in my area, this is also the time of year when girls start dress less and less, both temperatures and hormones seem to go up..
Saw some young couples at the bus stop and it was horrific...
I feel like I have missed so much in my life... I have so many regrets... I've spent most of my youth as an outcast, had really few friends, didn't attend a single party until I was 27, have dated only once (and it went nowhere)
And it's not that I'm going to be young again,
Also I suspect I suffer of ADHD, because I just can't concentrate on anything...
This life seems to me extremely difficult in every aspect, not only in the dating field (which for me has always been a huge unresolved mistery)..
Little things I do cost me a huge amount of energy....
But it is the depression that literally takes away all my energy...
Realizing that I'm too old to ever considering dating a girl at a fertile age and that I'm too socially awkard to even be given a chance by some 40+ woman who probably I wouldn' find much attractive in the first place, is enough to make me lose all motivation ..
Even posting this message requires me to do a massive effort in concentration.. no wonders why I'm also unemployed

My GF is 40+ and still a damn fine specimen, be prepared for the wrath of the women 40+ on WP

You need therapy for your depression. If for no other reason than to stop using it as a crutch to avoid moving on in life.

Brace yourself




Women 40+’s wrath is coming.

^ I’ll be back in a year and 3 months.

i dont like when people say that everyone over a certain age are unattractive
im 50 and im beautiful even without makeup

42 and never had a girlfriend? Holy s**t, you need to get on that. Otherwise you might be popping some viagra here in the next 10 years for your first time.

Have you considered looking for women in some SE Asian countries? Finding a girl to date there is generally easier compared to USA or Europe.

It does sound like you are depressed so not much anything anyone can say may be of help.

Something that helps me a little is the idea that if you take sex and children out of the equation men make better friends for a man. I don’t have a hard time believing that.

I would love to live in Western Europe because I would go to the brothels every week. It is sometimes only 35 euro.

It really can be how you look at it especially if you truly believe the stuff you come up with.

I think it does matter if someone has male role models and is not looking to women for approval or to complete themselves. Good luck with looking to women for that. It is a fools errand. I believe that. People can think it stupid but I like it.

You don’t have to make yourself mean or a tough guy or anything. You can be as mild and meak as you want to be.

I don’t think that anyone would argue that the only one that can make themselves happy is themselves unless they are a women that needs someone to complete them and lives and dies by that ….. but who cares what they think.

One thing that is useful to remember is that a man is not old until they are 48. I am sure that is debateable. I think it is about right but what do I know? Supposedly a man does not hit his prime until 28. I believe that stuff.

First off - I hope you mean young women and not young girls.
"Young girls" sounds like five year olds.

If you mean young women, it's likely because you missed a developmental stage.
You didn't date at that age, so you still feel like YOU are their age on the inside.

I still feel like I'm about 14 because that's when my social / emotional growth slowed.
I still listen to the same music and wear the same styles that I did when I was 14.

That doesn't mean I date like a teenager.
I had to do a lot of therapy to feel like an "adult" in terms of relationships or life in general.

I suggest finding ways to feel more your own age on the inside.
Get to know people roughly your age and go from there.

As for it being "painful" - I really hope you mean emotionally painful and not physically.
If it's a physical pain, you may need to see your doctor.

damn, another reminder of what depresses and irritates me, makes me mad

Even if you were a stud back in the day, those days would be over anyway! So whatever. I think you're in good company here with the missing out on the good stuff !

As usual a lot people are choosing to avoid acknowledging what the OP actually is trying to express. He is expressing his frustration that he has not had a sexual experience and to make matters worse every day when he walks outside of home there are young attractive women prancing around in front of his nose whom he knows he will never experience any form of relationship with because of his age.

It's like somebody who has severe diabetes who never tasted sugar before. Their body/mind craves sugar as walk past a bakery with the smell of freshly baked cakes, muffins and iced buns, Imagine having to relive that experience every day of your life.