MrsPeel wrote:
rse92 wrote:
Wait a minute. You have a wife, and yet you have been spending your deepest psychic energy on a woman who cannot have and you will not ever have and who has less than no interest in you as anything but a co-worker? Are you lacking something at home?
That's not autism. You are not helpless or powerless. You need to refocus your values or you risk hurting others and really screwing up your life.
I don't think you are understanding - this IS autism. For some people the autistic obsessiveness (or 'special interest') just happens to be another person. It's actually very very difficult to break out of this kind of fixation once you're in it. The wiki article I just read on limerance says it typically takes 3 years.
Agreed. Some of us do end up with people as our special interests. This has been true for me and others here as well...not just in this thread. It happens to some of us sometimes.
But yeah, this has happened to me and I can relate as much as I'm able. Sometimes someone just gets in my head and for whatever reason I get fascinated and spend excessive amounts of time thinking about them. It's happened maybe five times in my life. I go back and forth on the why and if it's limerence or something else. I also feel that 'come down' when I get over thinking about the person all the time. This hasn't happened to me in a few years, but I actually miss it sometimes...when I'm bored for a long period of time (like if I get sick or injured) or if I'm having a rough spell in life and want to be able to retreat into 'happy thoughts' or something.
07 Apr 2023, 8:45 pm
