Thoughts on clubbing?

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To be fair most NTs don't like it either.

It's literally impossible to speak to anybody because of the nauseating thumping bass noise and drinks are 10 x the price of a bottle shop.

We generally accept it's a place for extroverted social butterflies to show off how good looking they are and how trendy/fashionable > rest of us schmucks

No redeeming benefits from going there as far as I can see.

I like loud concert gigs but I know exactly what music I'll be hearing at them, I don't have to dance, and they aren't pick-up scenes with everyone trying to get laid. OK maybe not most people.

By the 70s in the US we didn't really have clubs as they are known today, and not because of the drinking age because it was still 18 at that time. But the white "counter-culture" wasn't really into dancing. The preferred way to have a good time in public was to get totally wasted on weed then sit in a concert nodding one's head in time to the music.

At least until the beginning of the Disco phenomenon when dancing once became a thing, but you have to understand that Disco wasn't something most young people immediately adopted as a lifestyle. Those who had formerly called themselves "freaks" (what the people whom we refer to as "hippies" nowadays actually called themselves back then) didn't start going to discos. There were of course bars that featured live music but I don't recall them having dance floors. You were supposed to listen to the music, not dance to it.

I remember sometime in the early 70s (1971 or so) going to a place in Colonie, NY that had a lot of tables but in the center there was a raised dance floor that was lit from below. You might think that was common but I don't recall seeing anything else like that. The time I went there I remember drinking Boone's Farm Apple Wine and getting sick. Boone's Farm was largely marketed to the under-21 crowd back when it was legal for Americans that age to drink.

As for today's clubs especially in Europe, they seem to me to be the exact opposite of where I'd want to go to have fun, drink, or meet potential partners, whereas this seems to be largely accepted as the first thing a young NT considers doing if they decide they want to have fun.

Discos and Roller Discos were very big. Discos were very much associated with hedonism. As I mentioned in the disco thread some guys that hated disco music or claimed they did said they went to discos because that was were the hot women went. Disco occurred after after the sexual revolution but just before AIDS.

Well roller rinks as Cyberdad said aren't the same as roller discos, as I understand it. It's possible roller rinks had disco nights but how many people really could perform disco dancing on roller skates?

I believe you that you went to discos at that time, having lived in NY. I lived in the Capital District until the end of 1977 then moved to the DC area. Never heard of anybody going to discos. I had a roommate in the DC area who had been a campaign manager for a congresswoman. He certainly had more social skills than I although TBH he had his own issues, but he never mentioned anything about going to discos. I totally agree with the premise that the era was sexually permissive but had no experience meeting hookups in a disco.

Ear plugs or hi-fi filters. A person to talk to or sit quietly with. Either accept being the "fool" on the dance floor or use a firm (kind) "no". When I can, I find ways to participate and accommodate myself (or ask for help). My mom is an avoider and her life has become unhealthy. You wouldn't need to go clubbing all the time, but wouldn't have to cut it out completely either. Middle grounds. Ironically I met my husband when my sister invited me to a club - I did it my way (no alcohol, sensory breaks, etc.) --- he's been a wonderful support for 30 years and one of the reasons I can do so much as an Autistic person.

i seem to lack the club genes except when i'm angry.