About fear and worry

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I read that heightened fear, worry or anxiety is common when on the spectrum. For me it seems to be correct. I get easily stressed over what people said, or what I said. I am thinking about the eventual negative outcomes=easily painful for me.

Even if I know that it is so and when it can be difficult to manage it when it actually happens. Have you experienced that yourself and do you have any advice?

Anxiety spoils a lot for me, but I suppose I've learned to live with it because it's hardly ever so strong as to be seriously debilitating. It mostly happens when I've got something important and difficult to do and time is short. I'm fairly calm otherwise. There's always a logical reason why I get anxious, but I suspect it's just stronger in me.

What to do about it? I just try to tough it out if the result is worth it, and do a lot of preparation to try to get round whatever problems I can foresee. I try not to take on more than I think I can manage.

I DO NOT recommend this course of action, but for me, losing everything, and effectively becoming "subservient" to a sibling, while being utter hell most the time, HAS lessened my anxiety to very low levels. It's probably also that I have thoroughly given up on trying to please others, and just hang out with the doggos 24/7.

There are tips and strategies for managing anxiety offered by various entities. This is one: https://adaa.org/tips

Although I don't meditate very often, I have found that to be helpful. There are many guides you can look up for that. But basically all you do is sit in a comfortable position (not so comfortable you might fall asleep), typically on a cushion on the floor, with eyes closed, and pay attention to your breathing. Try to think of nothing else except focusing on your breathing. You will inevitably have thoughts crop up in your head. When that happens, go back to focusing on your breathing so that it's the only thing on your mind, if possible. Do this for 10 minutes. (Set an alarm if you don't want to find yourself thinking about the time.)