Did fear and uncertainty cost your finest opportunity?

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23 Jul 2023, 7:30 pm

I emailed this last year, to a girl I met back in 2012, when I was 28 years old.

I don't know if you remember me or not, but this has been bothering me for a while and I need to tell you this. Almost 10 years ago, back in 2012, I met you online and we went on a date. We had a good time and I found you very smart as well as quite fascinating. But after that, I remember being scared and uncertain about it. I don't think it was your fault but just my lack of understanding and maturity at 28 years old. I meant to reach out to you again shortly after that, but I don't think I ever did. I should have given you a lot more of a chance than I did, and I would rank this as my biggest mistake in a 20 year dating career. I wound up feeling scared and hesitant to the point that I met someone else and started dating her later that year in 2012.

Fast forward nearly a whole decade and I am not with her anymore. I am not currently dating anyone. I don't know if you are with anyone or not, but I will be in Sheridan this weekend for Memorial Day with my parents. If you are available and up for it, I would like to meet you again. If not, I understand that too. I did also reach out to you on Facebook, but I wanted to be absolutely sure that you heard what I had to say. I would like to have some kind of closure or answer with this since I believe I may well have missed an incredible opportunity with you when I was 28.



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23 Jul 2023, 7:31 pm

100%

The groomer cost me everything and everyone.



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23 Jul 2023, 7:35 pm

Hell of a reply LOL!



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23 Jul 2023, 7:37 pm

Thanks for your compassion.



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23 Jul 2023, 7:41 pm

I hardly thought about this story for almost ten years and it came back to haunt me last year in April or so.



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23 Jul 2023, 8:30 pm

So what did she say in her reply e-mail?



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23 Jul 2023, 8:37 pm

She did not reply. I wasn't sure if she would after ten years, of course, but she was positively floored with me after one date.



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23 Jul 2023, 8:45 pm

^ I'm assuming that was sarcasm.


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23 Jul 2023, 8:53 pm

LOL must have been my autism to not see that.



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23 Jul 2023, 8:55 pm

I'm floored by all of you after one thread.



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23 Jul 2023, 9:06 pm

^ Great.
I'll see you in 10 years. :heart:


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23 Jul 2023, 9:08 pm

I'll bring the brandy.