Did you ever stay with a respite provider?

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25 Jul 2023, 8:14 am

Hi:
This just came to mind and I would like to know if anyone in here ever stayed with a respite provider while your loved ones went out of town. If so, what were your experiences?



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26 Jul 2023, 6:17 pm

my respite providers as a kid were my grandparents. They would set me up to spend the weekend with my grandparents and take the rest of the family (3 other kids) somewhere without me. Respite providers are supposed to provide comfort and safety, and maybe the first few times could be uncomfortable because it is all new, the surroundings, the routine, etc. But with experience I would expect it to be OK as I learned the routine, became familiar with the provider, smells, sounds, and all the other stuff that was strange to me. If it is possible, maybe you could go to the site or meet up with the individual or individuals who will be providing the care. That may make it easier when it is time to stay there.


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26 Jul 2023, 6:19 pm

my respite providers as a kid were my grandparents. They would set me up to spend the week or weekend with my grandparents and take the rest of the family (3 other kids) somewhere without me. I actually liked it because it was always peaceful and predictable there.

Respite providers are supposed to provide comfort and safety, and maybe the first few times could be uncomfortable because it is all new, the surroundings, the routine, etc.

But with experience I would expect it to be OK as I learned the routine, became familiar with the provider, smells, sounds, and all the other stuff that was strange to me.

If it is possible, maybe you could go to the site or meet up with the individual or individuals who will be providing the care. Getting information ahead of time can help prepare for the changes involved.
That may make it easier when it is time to stay there.


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26 Jul 2023, 6:25 pm

I did a few times (3-4) as a child. I actually preferred my worker to my parents. Seriously



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29 Jul 2023, 9:26 am

I had a few respite providers as a young adult which was when I lived with my aunt.

The first one was at a temporary stay in a group home. Honestly, I had so much fun too.

Meanwhile, I had a very bad experience with the second provider. For one thing, that provider was looking to earn some extra money. She also failed to do any of the things that my aunt and I had expected of her. Instead, she did what she felt like and didn’t care when I expressed my concern.


The third provider lived up the street from my aunt’s house so I got to stay home alone. Meanwhile, the provider would pick me up and drop me off. Otherwise, she needed to know where I was at all times.