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hapyecakehapyepie
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21 Jan 2024, 12:50 am

No matter what...if another person is near, i eventually get skull pressure. And feelings of annoyance. Its like a dial is turned up-sound, movement, touch, everything i see. It's all too much. I want to be close to people but i just find it painful. Anyone else have a similar issue? Any coping strategies i should try?



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21 Jan 2024, 1:43 am

I get this. They just have so much going on with them that it is overstimulating.
I wish I knew how to navigate this better too. I've felt relief and happiness during the times of my life I've had no friends because I didn't have to deal with the sensory overload that could possibly happen while being around them anymore. I know it's not healthy to live in isolation, but it is so tempting.



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21 Jan 2024, 6:48 am

You say that "eventually" the closeness causes a problem. Does that mean you could limit the time that you spend close to someone and let them know that that is how it has to be for you?



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21 Jan 2024, 8:17 am

This was a long running issue in the Big Bang Theory. Sheldon's relationship with Amy took years. Amy accepted that getting physical with Sheldon would take a very long time. It is great that the show lasted long enough for viewers to see this long running story arc. Most shows don't last that long!



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21 Jan 2024, 3:26 pm

bee33 wrote:
You say that "eventually" the closeness causes a problem. Does that mean you could limit the time that you spend close to someone and let them know that that is how it has to be for you?


I've tried but so far i havn't found a balance yet. So i'm looking into sensory deprivation tanks to see if that resets me properly.



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24 Jan 2024, 1:07 am

hapyecakehapyepie wrote:
No matter what...if another person is near, i eventually get skull pressure. And feelings of annoyance. Its like a dial is turned up-sound, movement, touch, everything i see. It's all too much. I want to be close to people but i just find it painful. Anyone else have a similar issue? Any coping strategies i should try?


I don't know about this one but my relationship (not romantic but platonic) was ruined because of my sensory issues trying to comprehend the fact that the emo girl who I was gonna be intimate with was identifying as a boy and that this transgender concept at that time was very new to me.

I have learned that the hard way and eventually I am slowly trying to improve and never have such encounter and disaster ever again.


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24 Jan 2024, 2:47 am

When I'm embracing somebody physically, if it goes on for very long I often get things like overheating, aching limbs, or an itch response from the other person's hair on my face. So I can't easily keep that kind of touch going for as long as some of my partners have seemed to want. The spirit is usually willing but the flesh is physically uncomfortable. It hasn't been so severe as to ruin relationships, but it hasn't helped.