I got invited to Jonathan's apartment!! !

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26 Feb 2024, 8:51 pm

Jonathan invited me to his apartment soon!

Should I be prepared for possibility of sex?

Especially once we become boyfriend and girlfriend


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26 Feb 2024, 8:54 pm

I wouldn't expect to end up as a couple based on getting together once.

I would keep it* in mind as a potential outcome, but not fixate on that outcome.

Just be safe, no matter what.

*It meaning either getting some or becoming a couple.


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26 Feb 2024, 10:20 pm

How DO I get the outcome of sex?

I just want to experience "it"

Can I do anything to influence the outcome like kissing or touching?


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26 Feb 2024, 10:28 pm

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
How DO I get the outcome of sex?

I just want to experience "it"

Can I do anything to influence the outcome like kissing or touching?


Honestly, I wouldn't rush things. Usually it's not that hard to communicate that's what you'd like to do, if it feels appropriate.


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26 Feb 2024, 10:36 pm

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Mikurotoro92 wrote:
How DO I get the outcome of sex?

I just want to experience "it"

Can I do anything to influence the outcome like kissing or touching?


Honestly, I wouldn't rush things. Usually it's not that hard to communicate that's what you'd like to do, if it feels appropriate.


In other words if he wants it too right?

I have held off so long and I feel that I am ready!

Now how do I communicate that to a man?


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26 Feb 2024, 10:53 pm

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funeralxempire wrote:
Mikurotoro92 wrote:
How DO I get the outcome of sex?

I just want to experience "it"

Can I do anything to influence the outcome like kissing or touching?


Honestly, I wouldn't rush things. Usually it's not that hard to communicate that's what you'd like to do, if it feels appropriate.


In other words if he wants it too right?

I have held off so long and I feel that I am ready!

Now how do I communicate that to a man?


Generally speaking, you don't want to communicate desperation. It's off-putting at best and it potentially invites people to be exploitative at worst.

You don't want to move so quickly that you haven't really read the situation entirely. Some people also make judgments based on that sorta stuff, and the people who would probably don't deserve your time at all. It can take awhile to assess if a person is suitable or if they're going to be more trouble than it's worth.


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26 Feb 2024, 11:11 pm

So just directly ask him for sex or vice-versa?

If we get into a committed relationship then I feel he will ask me for sex without me having to initiate it

Or he will show me that he wants sex through actions like kissing or touching?


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26 Feb 2024, 11:17 pm

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
So just directly ask him for sex or vice-versa?

If we get into a committed relationship then I feel he will ask me for sex without me having to initiate it

Or he will show me that he wants sex through actions like kissing or touching?


If you feel comfortable and think he's suitable, you can probably trust to just ask. If he isn't suitable, it's probably better to wait until you find someone who is.

Generally if you've been with someone for awhile you tend to be able to communicate those things even without saying. Either physically like you describe or even without contact or words sometimes.


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26 Feb 2024, 11:23 pm

When you're seeing someone and feel like you're both ready, it might be a good idea to talk about sex beforehand, so you both already know what you're comfortable with. It's also important that you are prepared as far as using protection is concerned.


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27 Feb 2024, 12:15 am

He might be expecting sex if I spend the night at his house

Also it could happen if I invite over Jesse :heart: :heart: :heart:


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27 Feb 2024, 2:31 am

Why you in hurry to have sex?



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27 Feb 2024, 2:34 am

Because I have been deprived of it and kissing for SO LONG!! ! :(

That is why

It is torturous going to bed every night alone instead of with a man!

I want to change that :heart: :heart: :heart:


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27 Feb 2024, 3:19 am

Have you visited him before or is this your first time?

If this is your very first time seeing him then definitely don't go to his apartment.



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27 Feb 2024, 5:45 am

Who knows about this besides you and him?


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27 Feb 2024, 6:16 am

When you go to his apartment, will his family be there? Does he live by himself, or is it a group setting? Does he get some kind of support from the county?


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27 Feb 2024, 8:00 am

Ah, so much like a screenplay I once read 20 years ago entitled "John's Apartment." He was a sadistic serial killer who murdered women that he lured into his said apartment. Not trying to be a jerk, it's just amazing the parallels.