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IsabellaLinton
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18 Jun 2024, 12:52 pm

Four.
I married the first one quite erroneously.
Then two crazies (also no PIV).
Then a 17.5 year break before MR.

The first three should all be discounted or annulled.
They were bogus relationships with deception.

This is my first time with a legit hetero person.


same q


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18 Jun 2024, 1:34 pm

It’s a bit complicated for me to say given various factors. I’m not sure what I should or shouldn’t include. I think 4 would be the most accurate although that leaves out my first engagement. (He was 5 and I was 6. We were long-time friends. He asked me to marry him when we were at his house sitting on the back porch steps. We kissed 3 times until his mom told us to knock it off. After that minor setback, we proceeded to discuss future plans. We decided that we would have two children - a boy and girl named Joshua and Cassiopeia. Sadly, the relationship could not withstand the distance when I moved away nor his subsequent “girls have cooties” phase.)

A went on a few dates with a guy when I was 18 and he was 19. We grew up together but dating was incredibly awkward due to my selective mutism at the time. He bought me a necklace and bracelet even though we weren’t officially a couple. The gift made things even more awkward because then I felt pressure to not be meh which made me even more meh.

Then I dated my first boyfriend… :( I loved him very much. When we broke up, stuff happened, and I ended up with my abusive ex. It took a long time for me to stop missing my first boyfriend.

I might talk about other stuff in another post.



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18 Jun 2024, 1:41 pm

Uh, a grand total of zero. I've been on the odd date. Never in a relationship.

I'm not counting the time I mistook friendship as romantic feelings and started 'dating' this guy, but then we both realised that it was just platonic and that we were in fact both gay. That was a funny story though.

I'm not sure I'll ever have an actual relationship. It's not looking terribly promising.

What do you think about the concept of 'love languages'?


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18 Jun 2024, 1:42 pm

^^

Maybe it's time to find #1 again.
There's still time for two more kids right?

I had a relationship of sorts with my best friend's boyfriend when we were 13.
It wasn't dating and we didn't really spend time alone except a couple times. :twisted:
We were crazy about each other though.
Years later I contacted him and he didn't even remember me.

Sigh.


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18 Jun 2024, 1:49 pm

I just checked out my childhood fiancé’s FB page. He’s with someone new, so I missed my window of opportunity. God damnit! Years ago, his mother told me that he still has the Winnie-the-Pooh plushie I gave him.

He was named after Luke Skywalker. I called him Lukey. Geez, he was perfect. :lol:



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18 Jun 2024, 1:52 pm

Lost_dragon wrote:
Uh, a grand total of zero. I've been on the odd date. Never in a relationship.
I wasn’t just referring to relationships. Anyone you dated would count.
Lost_dragon wrote:
What do you think about the concept of 'love languages'?

I’ve never heard of it.



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18 Jun 2024, 2:09 pm

I've heard of love languages. At first I laughed and thought it was rubbish or new age jargon. Now I realize there's kind of something to it. We all want / receive expressions of love in different ways whether it's verbal affirmations, physical touch, gifts, or whatever. I can't think of all the examples. It's important to know how your partner communicates love to you so you don't miss it, and it's equally important to know what kind works best for them to receive so THEY won't miss it.

https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language


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