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ALADDIN_1978
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28 Jun 2024, 3:34 pm

I have late diagnoses of dyspraxia, ADHD and Aspergers traits ( autistic traits ).

I am self employed . I got a degree , pgdip without any support.

I have mental health issues .

I am often lonely , I want to talk to people.

I am very sociable and outgoing .
I talk about topics which are repititive, when I am sad , I forget due to ADHD.

Should I only not talk to me people when I am depressed. I have. I close family and few friends locally . I talk to the neighbours locally .

I want to make friends and start a relationship with a female , but I do not want to be judged for underachieving.

Also , people I do not know very well , it can be harder .

I feel little connection to society.



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28 Jun 2024, 3:38 pm

Why do you think you're an under achiever

Sorry if I've missed something but to me it looks like you're doing ok


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ALADDIN_1978
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28 Jun 2024, 3:50 pm

I am self employed, but my income is low .



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28 Jun 2024, 3:52 pm

Well I won't ask what you do but does what you make cover all your outgoings with a bit to spare


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28 Jun 2024, 4:18 pm

if the OP wishes it, he may chat with me any time :pr: :pl:



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29 Jun 2024, 3:30 am

Yes being alone too much can get depressing. I guess the brain is hard-wired to miss having a supportive tribe. Unfortunately if you get depressed then typically you won't feel like doing anything to fix it, so it might not get better without a push.

I don't know that low income has to be a problem, except that wealthier people might snub you. I'd just stick to people who were on my own economic level. Of course you might need a bit of money for transport and for this thing people commonly do, i.e. equating socialising with spending money at restaurants, bars, etc. Even the poor seem to do a lot of that. I much prefer home visits. But people seem to like meeting on what they call "neutral ground."