How do you handle loneliness?

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I find it much harder to socialize on the Internet.
People are so much nicer in real life than on the Internet.

Yesterday I got my order in at a restaurant just before a group of ten arrived.
The waitress forgot to bring me part of my order so I had to remind her.
Just to make sure I understood the situation I gave her an extra dollar for an $8 tip on a $33 meal.
I find the extra dollar makes a big difference!

For me, it helps to engage in multiple hobbies. If you have one hobby, like watching TV, you can get bored of it. But if you watch TV, read books, read comics, play video games, write, listen to music, and so on, you are less likely to be bored. And inside each hobby try to have variety. Like don't just read the same kind of books. Don't just read Marvel or DC comics. Don't just listen to the same music genre every time. It's fine to have preferences but if you do too much of the same thing, it's like drawing water from the same well until it's dry.

Another thing I really recommend is learning about other countries and cultures. Not only does this provide more varied content for your mind, but it gives you a different perspective on the world and potentially yourself.

I’ve struggled with loneliness my whole life since I was a very small child. Although I have siblings who love me and I can rely on the older I get the more cognisant of the fact I am that they have their own lives and commitments to tend to and that I can’t rely on them for company all of the time. If you are able for the responsibility and are properly educated on taking care of an animal I found caring for and raising a puppy to a dog a very rewarding experience that combats loneliness. Whereas I used to lay on the couch or bed and feel the loneliness viscerally in my gut now when that feeling overcomes me I look over to my furry companion who comes over to me and shows me affection and I’m reminded that I have a special companion who is loyal and that I love. I wish everyone suffering with loneliness peace and comfort in the fact that many face it and you are not alone.

Thank you to everyone for your thoughtful and kind replies.

Video games and thinking about getting a cat, me and my boyfriend plan to move out of the current apartment when the lease is up, so we figure it would be better to get settled in the new place before getting pets. But yeah idk video games can help and I think having one or two cat friends could also be nice.

Also, I'd like to live somewhere long enough to make friends with the crows, as they can become quite friendly to people who gain their trust while still being able to survive as wild animals. So does not seem it really hurts them to gain friendship as they will fly off if someone they don't know comes by.

But for the meantime I do not have a cat and I have not been able to befriend the crows, so video games can be a bit of a distraction from the loneliness or just watching some t.v crap. And going on walks where maybe you will see some birds at least can be nice as well.

TL;DR: Dealing with loneliness: Join support groups, engage in hobbies, volunteer, see a therapist, participate in online communities, exercise, consider pet therapy, practice mindfulness.


Dealing with loneliness can be challenging, especially when managing autism, ADHD, and anxiety. Here are some tailored options that might help:

1. Join Support Groups: Look for online or local support groups for people with autism and ADHD. These groups can provide a sense of community and understanding.

2. Engage in Hobbies: Pursue interests and hobbies that you enjoy. This can lead to meeting people with similar interests. Consider activities like hobby robotics, which you are interested in.

3. Volunteer: Volunteering can be a great way to connect with others and feel part of a community.

4. Therapy: Consider seeing a therapist who specializes in autism and ADHD. They can help you develop strategies to manage anxiety and loneliness.

5. Online Communities: Participate in forums or online communities where you can share experiences and connect with others who understand your challenges.

6. Exercise: Regular physical activity can reduce anxiety and improve mood. Joining a class or group activity can also be a social outlet.

7. Pet Therapy: If you like animals, consider getting a pet. Pets can provide companionship and help reduce feelings of loneliness.

8. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Practice mindfulness, meditation, or relaxation exercises to help manage anxiety and improve your overall well-being.

Finding what works best for you may take some time, so be patient with yourself and try different approaches.

Since I've broken up with my now ex boyfriend and am once again single I've been wondering the same thing. Usually I'm fine on my own but it seems at least once a month I get this feeling of loneliness since I now am single and live on my own. I try to focus on other things like video games but doesn't seem to be enough. I still get this feeling or loneliness. When I was a teenager loneliness didn't bother me at all but sadly I was teased and forced to socialize. Now I sometimes feel I got to socialize or I'll end up bullied again. Sometimes I wish I could completely get away from other people. They are so mean anyway.

I enjoy it.

I miss my Shetland sheepdog, aka my lap buddy. Mom had to put her down 2 weeks after she buried dad. That was 38 years ago, and itt still gives me problems.

I don't have friends, no longer have a cat and have a husband who doesn't exist and never will

Why does this topic keep reminding me of “Cloudy With A Chance Of Meatballs”?

[ . . . ]

YOUNG FLINT: Everyone just thinks I’m a weirdo.

Fran gestures to Flint’s wall of posters of great inventors: Tesla [ inventor of DC electric motors and innovator in wireless telegraph and radio control ], Farnsworth [ inventor of television ], Edison [ inventor and businessman ], etc.

FRAN: So? People probably thought that these guys were weirdos too! But that never stopped them.

[ . . . ]

SAM: (CONT’D) Wait a minute. (THEN) What is going on with your feet?

FLINT: Spray-on shoes. They don’t come off.

She grabs his foot and yanks it toward her until he’s hanging upside down.

SAM: Cool! This could solve the untied shoes epidemic. What are they made of, some kind of elastic biopolymer adhesive?

Music plays as Flint gets all dreamy.

FLINT: (SMITTEN) Yeah, exactly...

SAM: (SUDDENLY NERVOUS) I mean... (GIGGLES) Wow, they’re shiny. (THEN) I’m Sam.

[ . . . ]

Flint shows Sam a diagram of the machine.

FLINT: So here’s how it works: Water goes in the top and food comes out the bottom.

SAM: So when you shot it up into the stratosphere, you figured it would induce a molecular phase change of the vapor from the cumulonimbus layer

FLINT: That’s actually a really smart observation.

SAM: (SUDDENLY NERVOUS) I mean, the clouds probably have water in them, which I guess is why you shot it up there in the first place.

[ . . . ]

SAM: So, Jell-O.

FLINT: Right, right, right.

SAM: It’s a solid, it’s a liquid, it’s a visco-elastic polymer made of polypeptide chains but you eat it-- (CATCHES HERSELF) I mean... it tastes good. (GIGGLES)

FLINT: (CONFUSED) Why do you do that?

SAM: Do what?

FLINT: Say something super smart, and then bail from it?

SAM: Can you keep a secret?

FLINT: No. (OFF LOOK) But this time, sure. Yeah.

SAM: Okay, well, it was a really long time ago, but I too was... a nerd.

[ . . . ]