Ignoring messages Aspergers male

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I contacted this person via messenger whom I had met a while ago in Greece, we happen to be part of the same forum which is quite something. He reads messages and ignores, responded promptly to one of them in a positive manner. I then decided I was encroaching on him and ended with wishing him the very best, which he read and ignored. I should note, he had asked me out the first time but it was in an inappropriate setting and therefore it seemed I ignored when in fact I was shocked. I don't know why he would just ignore last message when clearly it was a parting one and he would be happy to be left to it. I will admit I feel like the silent treatment is being used to punish.

Welcome first time poster!

Maybe he wasn't interested in you and didn't know what to say.
No one is obligated to reply to messages from other people.

Welcome to WP Sophia ... sometimes with Aspie folk, you have to spell things out exactly. Especially males , I have found . ...No bias intended , just my experiences .

Sometimes I'll get an email and I appreciate it but it doesn't occur to me that I'm supposed to respond. But with the kind of messages you are sending, a needed response does seem more obvious. He could just not know what to say?

Oh right well I can only speak for myself here but when I ignore messages it's only until I know what to say but then I do forget about it and then it looks like I've ignored them but I haven't

Sometimes it's just because I've got nothing to say to that person, it doesn't even have to be personal it is what it is unfortunately

Given the details you provided, it’s impossible to know if his motivation was punishment. There have been a couple occasions in which I decided not to continue interacting with someone because I felt uncomfortable and didn’t know what to say.

Being annoyed because somebody whom you blew off doesn't acknowledge you seems rather narcissistic. I know we're not supposed to complain about "NT behavior" but this is truly over the top.

Also you never explained how you know this person is autistic. Do you have tangible evidence of that?

My guess would be "not sure why you're still talking to him and feeling too awkward to reply." Seriously. Even neurotypical men are often very slow to process romantic stuff. It's a stereotype, but there's some truth in it. In the time a woman's mind has run a dozen increasingly wild simulations about an interaction, the average man's brain has just about fired up enough to go "wait, what?"