I want to make friends but

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I'm lazy to reply, I feel like I think too much before answering. Does anyone feel the same?

Or I just don't answer for daaaays.

I experience a trait that is similar. It is not that I am slow at thinking. It is that I think much more deeply then most people. I have a discussion with many, many people, and begin to think from many different angles, many different points of view. Finally I come to a conclusion and begin to speak about a topic. But everyone has moved on to another topic and then another topic and then another topic. So when I speak, everyone looks at me and tries to figure out what I am talking about. You see they only think for about 60 seconds and that is all they can handle before they drift off into something else.

It is easier for me to communicate in writing rather then speaking because I can take all the time I need to place my thoughts down and maintain accuracy.

Sometimes it fails to occur to me that I'm supposed to answer and that the other person is waiting for my response. Other times I just don't know what to say. And still other times I'm just so tired I can't think (I have chronic fatigue).

Howdy!

Please, respond asap....

I don't maintain friendships in real life. I've told people flat-out that I don't have the stamina to see them and I don't do phone calls or facetime. If they want to text now and then that's fine with me but most women feel insulted by that, and take it as a rejection. Online I'm the world's worst PM'er. I have a very hard time corresponding with people even though I'm online posting a lot. Posting and PM are two different skill sets. Most people who have tried to be my PM friend feel like I don't write enough and they likely feel sad when I'm online but not replying to them. I wish they knew that I do the best I can to reply but sometimes it takes me months to say what I want to say. It's hard for me to reply to people's emotions and open up about my own life in return. I never know how much to say and I can't gauge when people are bored or sick of me.

I can relate to that. Too often, too many thoughts. And it gets in the way of me responding. I would like to respond more here for example. But most of the time I know it going to take a fair amount of time to get the response done.
And if the subject isn't interesting enough I might end up thinking it's not worth the hassle and out of laziness don't reply.

Once I was texting with my brother who are similar to me. It took us about a month to muster up 2 replies each.

I find it's an attribute that is handy for problem solving but not as good for social interactions. Especially the more superficial kinds.

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