Do you feel stressed around fast-talkers?

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02 Oct 2024, 9:25 am

I feel kind of "stretched" trying to keep up.

I suppose I maybe am trying to meet them at their pace?
I suppose that is a mistake. I suppose I can practice self-compassion,
ask questions when necessary, and not worry too much about
any unstated expectations.

I often find that fast-talkers get things wrong anyway. If I am explaining something,
they will agree very very fast, but it is often a show of confidence, because when I
quiz them later, they haven't understood.



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02 Oct 2024, 9:58 am

My issue with it comes down to me being able to sift and sort through rapid fire info. I'm slow to process things. If I'm at home, environment is calm and quiet, and having a one-on-one conversation, I don't find it stressful at all. If there are other people or a bunch of external stimuli or whatever around me...eh, then I get overwhelmed and yeah, to say that's stressful is an understatement. I just give up trying to understand what is rapid fire coming at me, no point in trying as I will be unable to absorb any of it.



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02 Oct 2024, 2:45 pm

I usually have trouble keeping up with rapid talking, because I'm a slow, careful thinker, but I only feel stressed about it if I think it's urgent to follow what they're saying. And I can't follow lectures even at the normal speed, it's much better if it's interactive, i.e. a conversation, which I guess allows me to slow them down, among other benefits.

Frankly a lot of the stuff people say seems rather glib, vague, and bungled to me. When I ask a question, I usually want a straight answer, not a riddle.



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02 Oct 2024, 10:23 pm

I do. I can't keep up with them. It's very hard for me to process what they're trying to say.


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03 Oct 2024, 1:12 am

My last job had me interpreting a map screen and passing as much relevant information to my captain as possible. He would make them decisions and issue orders on the radio net as fast as practicable.
Doing this in a room full of stressed soldiers each with their own radio was always challenging and some serious decompression was required after work.
At the end of a month long exercise I would have to unclench my left hand from the chair, and I'd be shaking when I got home.
But I wish I still had that job. It may have only taken up 3 months/year but it was so exciting.
So the answer is yes... But we were supposed to be.



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03 Oct 2024, 4:15 am

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My last job had me interpreting a map screen and passing as much relevant information to my captain as possible.


Wow. That sounds like you were part of mission control for some kind of military as some kind of analyst.
That's pretty interesting.



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03 Oct 2024, 8:26 am

yes, can't do it, with audio processing at only 35th percentile it is absolutely impossible to keep up with "real time" conversations, presentations, audio podcasts, tv, or anything else. I find my best understanding through reading and writing. I was not made to interact in "real time".


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03 Oct 2024, 8:41 am

Having lived here since '92, I'm usually OK talking to the locals, but in a new environment with its own vocabulary, it can be a struggle if they revert to their usual speed! I feel no stress but somtimes important stuff goes missing...



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04 Oct 2024, 9:29 am

Yes, I have a lot of difficulty with processing audio. After a certain point, it sounds like someone is speaking gibberish to me. I straight up can not understand it.

There’s also this lag where it takes forever for me to process the meaning behind words. And then I often have trouble remembering audio. No problem remembering the visual aspects or other aspects (like location) though! It’s frustrating.

If it’s important, I usually have people write things down for me or I ask them to repeat slower so I can write it down myself.



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05 Oct 2024, 1:43 am

CockneyRebel wrote:
I do. I can't keep up with them. It's very hard for me to process what they're trying to say.


This goes for me, too.
I'm pretty sure I have auditory processing issues.



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05 Oct 2024, 7:02 am

It particularly stresses me when I am consulting medical specialists and trying to absorb completely new information and they are talking flat out about issues I am not familiar with.
Some speak at a measured speed, a minority just rush through and it is bewildering.



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05 Oct 2024, 8:08 am

I think reduced ability to process verbal input in real time may be the single most universal diagnostic criterion for autism.


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05 Oct 2024, 8:22 am

No, but I get frustrated by people who talk very slowly or in circles.

Which isn't to suggest that I don't ever talk in circles.


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05 Oct 2024, 8:28 am

Some autistic people talk slowly or repeat things although I don't know what to conclude from that.


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05 Oct 2024, 8:31 am

autisticelders wrote:
yes, can't do it, with audio processing at only 35th percentile it is absolutely impossible to keep up with "real time" conversations, presentations, audio podcasts, tv, or anything else. I find my best understanding through reading and writing. I was not made to interact in "real time".


What test is the 35th percentile thing from?



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05 Oct 2024, 9:57 am

If I drink a lot of coffee and smoke some pot, the fast talker is me.

"Now see man, look at this. I figured out [insert some semi crackpot idea/concept] and the solution is to [unrealistically simple solution that will never happen] now let me tell you the 100 steps I took to get to this obvious conclusion."