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15 Oct 2024, 6:05 pm

It’s a constant stream of internal dialogue in my head that needs to let out of my system, and I usually do it by talking to myself - even though I don’t see anything and I’m aware I’m the only one in the room. The problem is that it’s caused me a lot of grief in my life. I have a deep-seated fear that if I do continue to do this in public, the cops will be called on me.
It’s akin to clamping a hand over my mouth and telling me to stay silent when I’m told to suppress my inner dialogue, but I know I have to learn how to do it in certain situations more often. So how do I do it? :?



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15 Oct 2024, 6:45 pm

Exact same situation here. When I'm in public I talk to myself under my breath. Sometimes it looks a little weird if I move my mouth too much, but no one can hear me. I've found this to not be a problem.

The only issue I have is when I think no one's around and I start to talk out loud, and then someone hears me.


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15 Oct 2024, 9:20 pm

Some I can think of is either replace said stimming with something else entirely... Because stimming is supposedly a form of self regulatory behavior.

... Or overcome that form of overthinking or whatever source of subtle or subconscious overwhelm you're constantly dysregulated from.


The latter is trickier than the former.

Might as well can look like overcoming maladaptive daydreaming (which itself, apparently is difficult) or practice some form of mindfulness for a manual mental filter between the mind and verbal expression (which can be questionable to anyone who cannot or struggle to make and form habits and do not do well with mental multitasking like masking).


Or -- an exercise to not use words.
Not even with thoughts.
Which can be a struggle for someone whose default mental processes manifests as monologues.
Making said thoughts into something more abstract and/or nonverbal yet still eligible.

But it can be more liberating to someone whose processes are forced to be more verbal.
Still, it's like mindfulness; it can be questionable for someone who struggles to create and maintain habits.


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16 Oct 2024, 2:49 am

I suppose an anti-barking collar is too much?



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16 Oct 2024, 2:13 pm

Can you say it in your head?


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16 Oct 2024, 8:56 pm

Here's a novel idea: When you're out in public and know you'll have difficulty refraining from "talking to yourself," stick in a pair of wireless ear buds like BlueTooth.

I see people at the gym all the time "talking to themselves," and then I notice those damn things in their ears. But I guess this is now socially acceptable.

They're usually loud enough to be heard from a distance. This is how en vogue these damn things have become.

I'm sure if you're seen muttering to yourself and then the observer sees those things in your ears, they'll just ignore you and not think much of it.



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17 Oct 2024, 7:49 am

Elgee wrote:
Here's a novel idea: When you're out in public and know you'll have difficulty refraining from "talking to yourself," stick in a pair of wireless ear buds like BlueTooth.

I see people at the gym all the time "talking to themselves," and then I notice those damn things in their ears. But I guess this is now socially acceptable.

They're usually loud enough to be heard from a distance. This is how en vogue these damn things have become.

I'm sure if you're seen muttering to yourself and then the observer sees those things in your ears, they'll just ignore you and not think much of it.


I second this! I do the same thing as you OP, and I am constantly worried about someone hearing me, even at home in my apt!

I practically live in my earbuds. It is normalized for people to talk hands free on the phone, so I pretend I’m on the phone. At the end of the day if someone is eavesdropping or listening to you enough to the point of comprehending what you’re talking about that’s really on them, not you.



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19 Oct 2024, 8:46 am

I agree you should aim to say the things in your head.

But as a first step, could you maybe sing the words? Quietly? Then if someone is like, "What is that you are singing?" You could quickly shift and sing the actual words to the tune?

To some degree I really believe that being a strong autist in the general public is smoke and mirrors. You have to perform self care, but you must do it a way that won't turn into the end of Frankenstein where you're being chased with pitchforks for simple misunderstandings.



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20 Oct 2024, 4:38 pm

FemmeDimanche wrote:
It’s a constant stream of internal dialogue in my head that needs to let out of my system, and I usually do it by talking to myself - even though I don’t see anything and I’m aware I’m the only one in the room. The problem is that it’s caused me a lot of grief in my life. I have a deep-seated fear that if I do continue to do this in public, the cops will be called on me.
It’s akin to clamping a hand over my mouth and telling me to stay silent when I’m told to suppress my inner dialogue, but I know I have to learn how to do it in certain situations more often. So how do I do it? :?


Focusing on the behavior and stopping it when it arises is the tried and true method.

Another option is wear ear pods and just tell anyone that pops in that you're on the phone. :lol:

I indulge in Glossolalia, which I regard as barbarous words of power. It is very soothing, when alone and no one else is around. If someone were to overhear, why, they would not understand a thing. It would appear to be a completely foreign language.


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