likedcalico wrote:
I think they lack theory of mind too. That's why there are misunderstandings, miscommunications, they assume we would understand them like reading between the lines, knowing what they mean when they use phrases or don't say what they literally mean, etc. Some of them might think we are being a smartass when we misunderstand them because they assumed we got what they meant. They also sometimes fail to understand our point of views, don't underastand how our mind works, etc. What do you think?
I agree, that NT's are as mind-blind as we are (maybe in different areas). They just don't know their assumptions are faulty, esp. if no one corrects them/sets them straight.
When I can't get accurate (confirmable) info. I say I'm confused, don't understand, don't know-perhaps other people are more able to work on incomplete/wrong interpretations & conclusions.
MysteryFan3 wrote:
I think they have a Theory of Mind, but it's narrow. While they recognize others will perceive and think differently, they are used to a certain range of differences. When our perceptions and thoughts fall outside of that range, the misunderstandings begin.
Yes, that too-I figure anything's possible in range of human behavior, motivation, assignment of personal meaning in idiosyncratic fashion. Some standards that are applied by majority of people are not values or thresholds that I share, yet I'm subjected to other peoples' definitions of me.
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