Define Love.

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I am curious since there seems to be no clearcut definition of love...

What is love to you?
Do you think there is any universal definition of love?
What is unconditional love and do you think it exists?

I don't beleive I have a soulmate out there for me...
or my one and only...
I can't really define what love is-because I am not sure if its love or obsession I feel
so I can't know for sure

One would think that a member who's
been around so long, would have pulled
up one of the many prior threads, asking
the same, instead of starting a new one.

I used to think that it didn't exist because I couldn't find it in me.

I later realised that the reason I couldn't find it was because I was looking for the wrong thing.

I was taking what people said about love literally.

It is described as a single emotion but it is not.

The so called different types of love (ie brotherly, romantic, platonic etc) can be accounted for once you realise that love is a collection of feelings.

When we say we love someone all we are really saying is that we feel a range of positive emotions for that person.

One person's 'Love' will be made up from a whole menu of different positive emotions and may well be different in make up to their partners idea of 'Love' (even though they are calling it the same thing.

So, basically, I think I was right all along in that 'Love' as a single definable emotion does not exist.

I still see a singular, underlying
theme. Indeed, it kept me from
really understanding loving family
at all. But, with some work, I've
figured out a way to allow for that.

It depends on what someones personal definition of the word is.
So yes, I believe in it. When getting involved in it sometimes I can be too flattering though
But Im always truthful about it.

I feel love, like life is a mystery. My little boy teaches me how to love. I have been told I have 'savant type skills' for remembering Quotes on the theme of love and two of my favourates are.

Love in reality is a harsh and dreadful thing compared to love in dreams" (Dostoyevsky) and also "We are here on earth for a little space to learn to bear the beams of love" (William Blake)

To give love unconditionally is liberating, to give love with motive for return is enslaved. I am a recovering romance addict as only just starting to learn what love in practice is all about.
much peace to you
cx

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Companionate_love

Where's flatulent love on there?

I think that love is what you desire, Graelwyn, though love and desire are not synonymous. I think that by defining it, you feel you can hold it, possess it. So it is with love. If we can define the person we love and our love for them, many of us often feel that we can hold them, possess them.

It's Passion + Beans

What is love?
Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more.

Someone who knows both the good and bad parts of me and still comes to the hospital when needed. And vice versa.

http://www.appleseeds.org/love-mean.htm

Some of these are really deep.

Love means nothing to me.

Don't presume to know what I desire or want, and do not presume to know my motives for wishing to know how others define love. You are not the Akashic records nor a fountain of all wisdom and knowledge. I see no need to turn a simple question into something personal.

anyway, onto something additional I have been thinking of:

Why is it that as soon as you get 'close' to someone, anger can step in so much more easily and totally obscure, even negate any feelings of love?

Can one say that love is still there for you if you have had a row and the person in that heated anger wishes you dead or feels total loathing for you? How can that be love?

To me, it negates the existence of that pure and constant thing I used to believe love to be and renders it pointless.