Why do so many people want Girlfriends/Boyfriends?

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As somebody who is 28 and never had a date, I think the reason people post that is because they want to feel affection for somebody other than a family member. I would love to date a guy, but because I am really shy, nobody really approaches me. I guess its partly my own fault, but I also have a set of criteria that would probably prevent me from dating most people (I would prefer the guy to be a Christian). I know that it limits me to whom I could potentially date, but I don't like the fact that nobody will ask me out or take that chance. In fact, most of my friends haven't had boyfriends and its never really been a priority of mine. But now that I am getting older, I really want to start to date and find somebody who could love me back for me being me and just love me for the fact of who I am and not see me as somebody who isn't dateable.

For me, I want a relationship; something that is more than sex and that has some meaning for me. But apparently, nobody is interested in me and probably won't be.

To me girlfriend = sex in it but don't really care how many times we do, i.e.:- I am flexible, anyone trying to use it against me will fail...

( When someone is only after sex it's either they got a high sex drive, have not had sex for that long, or have not had sex at all... ) So go & pay for it until you feel better... or find someone active...

Supporting each other, been they for each other, doing things together, experience things together, deep trust of open communication, doing things you normally do without each other to balance it out.

Don't really think they have time for shy people any more jayne, or they just run coz they mistake us for clingy, just coz we do care for them, plus the amount of junk out they against shy people now... Maybe we will find some people that don't look brainwashed...

& why are you thinking so complicated... We are animals, we normally do try to seek out someone, just human's get manipulated by self help books, mags that females read & get caught up in the bs... You just have things in your way. Like dating I don’t really think it works & who the hell came up with the 3 steps?

But normally getting a friend to ask someone out, family member to look out for the person you’re looking for, really I think kids have better heads than adult’s most of the time. Does not help what the medical industry has done to shyness like... Just cause's more problems...

First of all, sex is widely advertised so you can't blame me for being curious about it.

Second, every now and then I get to see a couple hugging or playing or laughing and it looks like it is "nice"

Third, it looks like we are supposed to do these things.

But actually, other days I start to think about it and... as hard as it would be to actually ask someone out, the date would also be very hard and then if that goes ok I would have to do it every time! And I don't really have so much time for myself already, and then something of the sort like introducing her to my family sounds as a terror story to me.

Because aspies are lonely.

companionship

Because I simply can't do it all alone.

Because I'd like to have a nice lady to face the world with me, to spend time with, to be my companion and my soulmate. I don't think it's an unreasonable request but I'm not going to rush into anything.

I guess if I really think about it, the sex is what I really want. I just have to find someone who will tolerate me, so I can get some.

...Or stay alone.

I want someone to share my life, feelings, and experiences with. Someone who will understand me, and will provide support and love (and me for her) throughout life. Also, someone who will help raise a family, which is one of my biggest dreams.

Somehow, though, I'm doubting that it will happen, at least for a while. I'm going to be 26 in 8 months, and I haven't even been on a first date yet.