That's one thing I never bothered about is worrying how much time I spend looking into other peoples eyes when talking. When I was young I did not make eye contact and thank God my grandparents never stressed eye contact as one of those things I had to learn in order to "survive in society on my own as an autistic adult". I was born with and have crossed eyes to this day due to brain damage so I guess eye contact was never going to be my strong suit.
I look at anything I want when talking to someone as what does it matter where I look. I do make an effort to look in the general direction of the person I am talking to. I think its disrespectful to turn your back to a person you are talking to without a valid reason they understand and agree to. I tend to look at their clothing, their body movements, their hands, the sounds and inflections in their voices, they way they tilt their heads, how move or place their legs and feet, if they fidgit I look to see is it a random or ordered pattern. Is the pattern a lengthy exact repetition or a short exact repitition. Does the pattern change in an ordered fashion and more. These patterns in a speakers behaviors give me insights into the kind of individual they are. I look at the office to get insights into the individuals personality, their loves, focused areas and dislikes. I do not get any insight into the speaker by looking into his eyes so why waste time looking there for insights I will never see or understand. I get my insights as an autistic man in the places I specified herein, those people who know me will just have to accept me for who I am.
I do tell people I speak to and care about that I am autistic, so if I do not make eye contact with you it does not signify boredom disrespect or any other negative conventional humans attribute to the behavior. Autistic's like me do not make eye contact as part of our processing of life when speaking with others. I ask that they please consent to respect the facts I have shared before we continue. Most people accept my explaination and terms and things work out fine. If they can't accept that I am different there is no use to talking with such a closed mind anyway! Walk out wishing them luck in life, they will need it!