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sweetcupcake
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21 Dec 2007, 11:20 am

Not looking for just sex. Im 16, from UK.
It seems all the guys on dating sites are just looking for sex. :roll:

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21 Dec 2007, 12:01 pm

i'm just looking for cup cakes yummmmmy :heart:

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21 Dec 2007, 12:25 pm

Yes, but I'm more than 3 times your age and there's an ocean between us.

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21 Dec 2007, 12:37 pm

greetings...I too like cupcakes

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21 Dec 2007, 12:54 pm

sweetcupcake wrote:

It seems all the guys on dating sites are just looking for sex.

Then don't use the dating sites? Sorry to state the obvious. It's actually the advice I'd give, though - as an aspie, you're unlikely to be the stereotypical sort of partner someone on a dating site would be looking for. I'd instead not try to find romantic entanglements at all, and focus on interests and social situations based upon hobbies. I find that, with a bit of practice, it's possible to socialise effectively within groups who're interested in things you're interested in (by practice, I mean learn to stop - if we're obsessed by things, we can go on and on, you need to learn to stop, listen to someone else's opinion, and then incorporate that into what you're talking about). Those friendly relationships may then develop into something more. And if they don't, you're still left with a social group, which can be a useful thing to have.

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21 Dec 2007, 1:41 pm

Sex isn't everything, but it is part of a mature relationship, or at least needs to be discussed in the process.

Is this really the way to meet a partner? The internet?

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21 Dec 2007, 2:56 pm

sweetcupcake wrote:

It seems all the guys on dating sites are just looking for sex. :roll:

It seems like all the nice women around here are from across the pond... otherwise I would be interested...

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21 Dec 2007, 3:06 pm

a 16yo entrepreneuse?
You make muffins for sale? yumm

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21 Dec 2007, 3:14 pm

JohnHopkins wrote:

Sex isn't everything, but it is part of a mature relationship, or at least needs to be discussed in the process.

Is this really the way to meet a partner? The internet?

It's a sign of desperation

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21 Dec 2007, 3:22 pm

Hi Sweetcupcake, welcome here.

Well, you certainly have a direct approach, I would be a bit careful with that if I were you. Internet is probably not the safest place (like you wouldn't know...)

But I do not think you are going to meet a lot of people when you do not tell a bit about yourself, that is one of the few things I do know about meeting people.

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21 Dec 2007, 3:32 pm

LePetitPrince wrote:

It's a sign of desperation

Judgemental, at all? There are many and varied reasons to look for a partner online, and I'd be wary of ascribing desperation without further information (and, honestly, even if it were the case it would be bloody impolite to point it out).

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21 Dec 2007, 3:38 pm

I'm 16 and English, but we met on the internet so I wouldn't risk it, sweetcupcake.

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21 Dec 2007, 3:44 pm

I feel I am also a decent guy, tho I am 9 years older and also live in the USA.

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21 Dec 2007, 4:07 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:

It seems like all the nice women around here are from across the pond... otherwise I would be interested...

I have to take issue with that comment! :wink:

I have been in contact with several 'nice women' from WP who reside on my side of 'the pond'... let's see... there's (in no particular order ladies so I'm not playing favorites :wink:

)...
Reika
Sodarktheshadows
Labpet
Jaleeb
LKL
EvilKimEvil

arrrrrrghhh, my brain is slowing down... these are just the ladies I have had most contact with and that I know live on the N.A. Continent... and I'm getting one of those brain-blocks...
(looks inside his Inbox for more names )

I have found many nice women on WP... from all over... but without knowing them in person, the relationships I have online are rather ethereal.
I worry that meeting some of these nice women in person might scare them even more than my posts do!

Oh... and to the OP... I actually like to think of myself as a decent guy, especially towards women...
but, although I'm not as old as Mr.Mark is :twisted:

... I'm pretty close.

Hope you find someone you can be happy with.

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21 Dec 2007, 5:39 pm

Gee.

You're direct.

The WP does have a dating site affiliation......check it out.

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21 Dec 2007, 6:25 pm

Hi sweetcupcake. I'm sure there's quite a few AS guys here in your age group who live in the UK. Have you tried finding a boyfriend locally?

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