How important is physical attraction?

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Physically attracted to everything.....lol that made me laugh .

Anyway I agree with you, Pugly. For me, what someone looks like on the outside is irrelevant. I've heard that it is human nature to judge a person by the way they look....but I'm not like that...or maybe i'm just not human .

It matters up to where you can be with someone, be comfortable with them in public, and feel physically attracted. Anything too far over that in excess is a headache, at least if your chasing it from that specific end - if you do find someone who's great for you and also extremely attractive that's more or less just great luck and something you probably don't want to push too hard for. Personally I tend to find girls who are average or slightly above probably a bit more endearing than that ultra thin and guiled up bar girl; though to tell the truth its all in the quality of how we mesh so I wouldn't turn away either (at least if I were single).

Attraction matters a lot for me. Doesn't matter how much of a personal connection there is, if I don't find you attractive, then it's not going past the friends zone.

According this thing called "The Ladder Theory" a woman's rating system goes like this

Attraction: 40%
Personality: 10%
Money/Power: 50% (lol)

[The Ladder Theory] - a theory of adult male/female interaction.

Wow. I keep being amazed and saddened by how much some men hate women.

http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html

25%. It may be neccessary for that initial spark. That said, my physical preferences are quite different to that of the majority of men.

It usually goes like this for me:

Detect girls of desirable age subconsciously.
Determine whether they are physically desirable to me, on criteria such as body shape, race, skin condition, facial shape, etc.
Observe behaviour, attire, and manner, and determine whether they might be compatible. See if they find me to be of interest.

Yes, it is the same for me.


Yes, that exactly has happened to me, I have had crushes on women who I didn't find attractive at first but after knowing them more and being a nice person, I start to find them more physically attractive.


well, I kinda know him and he isn't someone who follows what other people believe and want, it seems like it is something he made on his own since highschool, for what he says, it has been by watching the popular girl getting the popular and best looking guy and the media, apparantly.

About the rest of the reply, I really appreciate it, I believe it is very useful, same with the rest of the replies, your wise posts are appreciated

I am like that, for me the personality is very important, ideally speaking, it should be the only thing that matters, but I see that there has to be some degree of physical attraction, but then, I would value more the inner beauty than the outer beauty, what good would be having a relationship with a top model, if my life with her is hell lol, no thanks

Oops, I was unclear. I didn't mean only him. I've known guys like that, too.

Hopefully he'll relax a bit. Sometimes it seems like guys who worry about being unattractive actually end up missing clues when women really are interested in them. I've talked to guys who say "women don't like me" and then I'll see women trying to catch their attention and the guys don't even notice because they're so wrapped into the idea of women not liking them. I can identify with that... since I get overwhelmed in public and because eye contact is so hard for me, I've been told lots of times that I've totally missed it when a guy was hitting on me or looking at me or whatever. But at any rate... I think it's sad when really great guys end up feeling inadequate or unattractive because of what the media tells them or because they were teased in school. It's hard to get over that.

I am like that but I think I am getting a different reaction, which I feel to be rejected for other things, not for physical attraction, that wouldn't be much of a problem for me I suppose, as I don't have high standards for that, but for other reasons which are really more important, I am in a worse position than him, I just hope he realise that.

He is NT, but he has some things that AS people can relate to.

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Physical attraction is the difference between friendship and romance.

I agree. I've dated and been best friends with two girls. There was nothing special in the way either of them handled me. No other 'level' of intimacy, except maybe when it came to physical contact that I experienced with my girlfriend, excluding my best friend. I've known some of my friends to end up sleeping with their girl buddies. One of them told me about a time where his girl buddy just asked him on the spot if he wanted to have sex with her.

I feel pretty much the same as gwenevyn about this. Physical attraction is important if you're looking for a relationship that involves sex, but people have very varied tastes. Almost all my boyfriends have been a bit odd looking, two were overweight, one of those had really really tiny eyes, one just looked really odd in a way I can't explain. I was obscenely attracted to all of them. One of the people I think I've fancied the most ever has a huge moustache and is eight years older than me.

I hope you keep saying this stuff to your friend, and also tell him you think he looks good, even if he doesn't believe you it may make him feel a bit better. Maybe just advise him to make the most of himself if you don't think he does already?

I think physical attraction is just saying that they've met the minimum in terms of looks and that their personality can either compensate or add to the rest to where you can feel biologically attracted, as more than a friend (which isn't necessarily always sexual in a breaking furniture way but still in the bottom-line device of the interaction). That's why I tend to think that any attraction has physical as an absolute minimum, it just depends on where your physical attraction cutoff lies.

Not at all discrediting what your saying, just that I think when people talk about physical attraction there's a tendency to think of it as geeks thinking they need a porn star or something. It really applies to anyone at any level I think, the connotations are what we have all backwards though and the meaning of the fundamental idea gets lost.



Sounds hideous (Calandale and Ron Jeremy, cover your eyes )