college and inappropriate e-mail

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Last edited by stillhere on 01 Feb 2008, 8:26 pm, edited 1 time in total.

my son did send a threatening email to a girl, but, fortunately the authorities weren't involved....he apologized, & promised to not send her anymore email. we told him that we would involve the authorities if he continued.
all kids make mistakes......i'll pray for the best for you

What kind of threat was it? What was his contact with this person? Does he understand what he did as wrong?

I have to agree with the colleges decision on the situation. He threatned another student, which threatens the safety and peace of the campus.

I feel bad for your son. I'm sure he's not a real threat to her or anyone else, but the school will probably come down hard on him. If he gets expelled, don't let him give up on college. He could do online coursework, if nothing else.

I tell my son all the time....stay clear of confrontations with girls. They are so much more verbal than he is and they get a lot of attention when they tell their side of the story. The biggest trouble my son gets into is when he has dealings with girls. I could see something like that happening to him one day and he's definitely not violent.

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Last edited by stillhere on 01 Feb 2008, 8:27 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Well then maybe he should learn there are consequences for his actions. He made a threat via email and should consider himself lucky. I think he got off lightly.

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Last edited by stillhere on 01 Feb 2008, 8:27 pm, edited 1 time in total.

By stating that he shouldent be allowed back, regardless of wether he has Aspergers or not. He is a threat to the community now.

My boy is like that too and I suspect he will be like that for a very long time even though he knows its a problem. Impulse control is developmental. Even facing consequences in the past doesn't prevent all future problems. I think this is especially true for ASD disorders because they don't apply as much from past social experiences to future ones.

If you quiz my son on what is right and wrong, he gets every answer right. In a dynamic situation where he has to apply what he knows on the spot, he gets it wrong a lot.

I wish your son the best. He sounds like a good kid who deserves a break.

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Last edited by stillhere on 01 Feb 2008, 8:27 pm, edited 1 time in total.

By telling you that you are being unreasonable expecting the college to allow your son back who threatned another student via email. Your son is a danger to that college and you need to wake up to that. AS can not be used as an excuse for such foolish behaviors.

I don't think TheFace wants to help.

Regarding this, it depends on the threat, but it will be hard I think. In my opinion you should try to make him apologize to the girl and maybe try to explain that the e-mail was not as threating as it seemed and that the AS could have made it easy to misunderstand . It is a shame she went to the extreme, unless the letter was really threating which I doubt.

So, I think that regardless of going court and stuff the priority is to get understanding from the girl herself, once that happens I think it will be easier to prevent an expelling but either then your son might have to go take therapy . I don't think that they can prevent him from ever going to another college, so you should take into consideration that there is a big possibility he will get expelled and try to look for alternatives.

I don't think we can really help unless we know what the "threat" was and how much contact he had with this girl. I mean, some Aspies here have been accused of threatening for drawing pictures of violence or holding up stuff. Some have been accused of stalking when they were just trying to talk or stare too much.

There could be more to the story and perhaps this young man needs to let someone check his email to see if he wasn't being harassed first.

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Last edited by stillhere on 01 Feb 2008, 8:28 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Transmitting angry words through an email system, in and of itself, does not in any way make a person "dangerous".