wtf. my co-workers keep telling me to get a girlfriend

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nory
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07 Feb 2008, 12:52 am

It does sound like harassment. I think a lot of people are saying how great it would be to come up with some clever and rude comeback, and thats the kind of thing thats fun to do in your head after the fact, but I would actually reccomend not doing it since he's your boss and it could just set up a challenge.



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08 Feb 2008, 2:21 am

techstepgenr8tion wrote:
You volunteered way too much information, that's one of the troubles with having AS for a lot of people I see.


The more I shut up, the more I like it.



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08 Feb 2008, 4:22 am

Sargon wrote:
While one might be happier while they are in a relationship, divorce has a fairly significant negative effect on one's longevity (and probably decreases "happiness"). A 50% chance (~ the divorce rate) of a higher mortality doesn't seem to particularly be worth it. I suppose one could tell their coworker's that, but you'd probably be seen as more weird.

That's a decent point, but it just means that quality of relationships matter a lot too. Good relationships take work. Their studied value certainly shouldn't be mocked.



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09 Feb 2008, 3:58 pm

Heh, I love all these comebacks people are coming up with. Nice. :lol:

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You can find people who will accept you if you are gay, jobless, homeless, of any religious faith, with any physical or mental disease, transgendered, disabled, a criminal, or a drug user. Yet make the mistake of telling someone (or having them find out) that you are not in a relationship, and you are not trying to find a relationship, and you will be universally ostracized by everyone. You are labeled a freak and a loser and people whisper about whether you are gay or have mental problems. If you have other strange habits people may whisper about you being a pedophile or a murderer.

So true. I'm not interested in romantic relationships at all- I'm not in denial, and I'm not repressing feelings of any sort, it's just not something I go for. When I tried to explain this to a kid at school a couple of years ago, he just told me, "Well, you know, they have pills for that." :roll:

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You should have replied with: "No, but I do have 5 kids with 3 different moms" :twisted:

"And if you ever come across any clues as to where they might be right now, I'd appreciate it if you let me know."


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10 Feb 2008, 8:04 pm

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they keep saying that it's weird for a 27 year old guy to not have a girlfriend and they said it's our duty as humans to get married and bring children into the world. then one of the managers came around and asked if i have a girlfriend. i said no and he laughed at me



Next time someone asks you if you have a girlfriend, say "Yeah, your mom".



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10 Feb 2008, 10:18 pm

aaronrey wrote:
they keep saying that it's weird for a 27 year old guy to not have a girlfriend and they said it's our duty as humans to get married and bring children into the world. then one of the managers came around and asked if i have a girlfriend. i said no and he laughed at me


my take on this..... since it is one of the current held theories that asperger's is genetic.... it is our duty as aspies to get married to another aspie and bring children into the world.... just to outpopulate the NT's that do things like this..... *weg* who's with me?



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10 Feb 2008, 10:55 pm

It's also possible that there may be a girl there who's flirting with you and you're completely unaware of it.

That would explain everything.



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11 Feb 2008, 12:02 am

juliekitty wrote:
techstepgenr8tion wrote:
You volunteered way too much information, that's one of the troubles with having AS for a lot of people I see.


The more I shut up, the more I like it.


That makes two of us who think that. Keep up the good work :P.



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11 Feb 2008, 10:33 am

kit000003 wrote:
my take on this..... since it is one of the current held theories that asperger's is genetic.... it is our duty as aspies to get married to another aspie and bring children into the world.... just to outpopulate the NT's that do things like this..... *weg* who's with me?


I endorse this remark



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11 Feb 2008, 3:06 pm

Legato wrote:
my take on this..... since it is one of the current held theories that asperger's is genetic.... it is our duty as aspies to get married to another aspie and bring children into the world.... just to outpopulate the NT's that do things like this..... *weg* who's with me?


I endorse this remark[/quote]

Yay - seconded.



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28 Apr 2008, 3:16 am

They don't probably think you're gay unless you act feminine. They see you to yourself and shy, and not really socialize like other people at work. So they wonder do you get any p****. So they ask you do you have a girlfriend. Or they just nosey.



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16 May 2008, 7:39 pm

37 y.o.
Its your duty to inform the nosy ones you're a back door man. Unhappy wives don't have to fuss much when they set their designs on you, you are naturally inclined to be helpful. 8O



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25 May 2008, 11:01 pm

Don't file harassment.
That makes you a tattle-tale.
And nobody likes a tattle-tale.
Seriously, if you turn them in, you're just as big of an A-hole as them.
People who tattle can't handle their own problems.
The only time that tattling is OK is when you want revenge.
So...
Two choices:
1) Tattle, lose balls, grow female reproductive organs...
2) Don't tattle, keep balls, don't grow female reproductive organs...


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30 May 2008, 11:47 am

When people see that you are different, maybe you are quiet and shy,
they want to sort of fix up your life.
They think that they have the right to be nosy and to tell you what to do.

I don't have children and I'm married so people tell me to have children. It's annoying.
Sometimes I want to tell them the truth.. I hate children. But I can't do that.

The best you can do is to tell them how happy you are by being single. Don't tell them that married people are unhappy and get divorce. Don't return the insult. Tell them that you respect people regardless of their marital status.



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30 May 2008, 2:38 pm

I can kind of relate to this. The happiest period in my life, when I really completly enjoyed my life, people flocked around me, telling me how bad my life was, all the things I was missing out, feeling sorry for me, wanting to help.

I don't know if they were just trying to be kind. Or just jealous/scared of me living a different lifestyle.

However, I'm a curious person For a period in my life I have been experimenting with different lifestyles and identities. I made me nothing but very unhappy and depressed. But now that I don't like my life, all those "kind" people don't feel sorry for me now, or want to help...

So I think that not always, but often, people "wanting to help other" to become "happy" haven't really chosen their own lifestyle, but just seen it as the only option. Then they become insecure when someone finds happiness another way. What does that mean, maybe they could have lived the life they wanted, doing the things they dreamed of? Scary thought... makes people want to change other, happy, people to become more like themselves.


Anyway, whatever causes their action:
it's really annoying...



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30 May 2008, 2:45 pm

and to that specific question, if it is repeated too often, I would just answer that I'm gay and don't want to settle down yet because I enjoy f*****g around too much. But that I have donated a lot of eggs/sperm to make sure I serve god and the purpose of life.


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