Okay, point 1, you're female. Male dynamics are completely different. I realize girls/women can be absolutely nasty vicious to another girl/woman if they choose to, and sometimes that happens, but it does not happen nearly as often as the physical dominance that males use. Males tend to dominate other males by beating the snot out of them, and no matter how big you are, or how strong, there are ALWAYS more of "them" than you can handle. If you win once, the next time there's 3 of them. If you manage to scrape by that time theres, 10 the next time.
Point 2, you're in Australia and I think a lot of the people making the statements you're talking about are in the US. In this country there's practically a religious fervor for high school sports teams, football being the most common. It's practically a sacrament for those players to 'pick on the geeks' which usually involves humiliation, physical beatings and in some cases actual damage, such as broken bones. They're almost never punished. Now certainly not every "geek" is an Aspie, but almost any Aspie would get classed as a geek. Or dork, or nerd, or other disparaging term. It's one reason Bill Gates is such a hero to some of us. Somehow, you just know, that there's a former cheerleader crying herself to sleep beside her drunken unemployed ex-football playing husband in their run down ratty trailer thinking, "I could have dated Billy Gates".
All that being said, I don't hate NT's. Actually, there are maybe only 2 or 3 people in the world I actually actively dislike. I don't LIKE most NT's, but then I don't LIKE most of ANY group. It doesn't mean I dislike them, it means I don't care. I might have had a different answer 25 years ago, but time and age have mellowed some of those memories. Bitter? Yes. Hate? No.
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I tried to get in touch with my feminine side.... but it got a restraining order.....