What do men look for in a woman besides her looks?

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15 Mar 2008, 11:59 am

One thing I also love, this is absolutely magnetic for me - very multilayer sense of self, multi-layer emotionality - mixes of all kinds of counterpoints. A lot of times, with what I mentioned about a woman who has a sense of fashion that really sends an air about her, almost like she's something completely outside of race, routine, and the box of conformity (too slippy break down for that) - that drives me wild. Especially when all that goes along with very high intelligence, seriously there's no point and no hope in me fighting at that point - I'm yours.



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15 Mar 2008, 3:47 pm

Looks are generally unimportant to me. Personally the main point for me is intelligence. I have a tendency to speak in a technical manner and there's no way I'd be able to be in a relationship with someone who couldn't understand half the things I say.

That, and I've been surrounded by friends who are just as, if not more intelligent then I am (including someone who will probably end up being Valedictorian) so I'm used to being around smart people.



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15 Mar 2008, 6:36 pm

I look for far more. I look for compassion, eccentricity, maturity, responsibility, passion, confidence, honesty, individuality, stability--you know, the good stuff. I also look for girls who AREN'T certain things, like smokers or religious or sadistic or apathetic....



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15 Mar 2008, 6:43 pm

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I go to a university with about 19,000 - 55% women. Guess what? They ALL LOOK THE SAME (95%). Whatever time of year it is, there are literally 5 different outfits, with varying colors, but all the same. Jeans (2 different styles), with flip-flips, shirt underneath one color, shirt over with a different color. The shirt under is a little longer than the shirt over. Without the color variations, you have about 9000 robots marching around in circles.


BS.

Every human is unique except for someone who has a twin sibling.



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15 Mar 2008, 11:23 pm

Veresae wrote:
I look for far more. I look for compassion, eccentricity, maturity, responsibility, passion, confidence, honesty, individuality, stability--you know, the good stuff. I also look for girls who AREN'T certain things, like smokers or religious or sadistic or apathetic....


That's the first time I've heard the word eccentricity as being something. I wish there more ppl out there who weren't afraid to show their different eccentricities and oddball ideas without being put down so much in the real world.



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16 Mar 2008, 2:43 am

true that, missconstrue.

although i rather tend to see eccentricity as a not so good choice of word - to me, it always carries the connotation of doing different for the sake of it, not for oneself as a reason.



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16 Mar 2008, 3:17 am

reading all these postings make me a little more hopeful that someone out there might be looking for me. some of the traits people are listing are often felt to be negatives: highly intelligent, empathetic, unique. yay, WP boys!



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16 Mar 2008, 3:34 pm

Veresae wrote:
like smokers or religious or sadistic or apathetic....

It's practically impossible to find someone who isn't at least one of the above...



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16 Mar 2008, 3:52 pm

I always thought "eccentricity" was rather vague. Lots of behaviour can be interpreted as eccentric.

As a teenager I used to have a little "no smokers" rule but I've come to reject this. Not that I smoke, because I never did, but everyone makes mistakes and many of those can't shake the habit off that easily.



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18 Mar 2008, 11:34 pm

True, eccentric can imply more than one thing. Would idiosyncracies be the word?
I don't know, I just like the idea of fitting in without trying to fit in. I get sick of hearing what band is popular that I should know about and what words are befitting to thy age. If any aspies get what I mean. OK, back to topic.



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19 Mar 2008, 4:31 am

Cannibalism.



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19 Mar 2008, 8:47 am

MissConstrue wrote:
True, eccentric can imply more than one thing. Would idiosyncracies be the word?
I don't know, I just like the idea of fitting in without trying to fit in. I get sick of hearing what band is popular that I should know about and what words are befitting to thy age. If any aspies get what I mean. OK, back to topic.


I can relate. By the time I figure out what is popular I find that it stopped being popular at least 2 years ago so I just gave up. Have to follow what I like, and forget about trends.



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19 Mar 2008, 11:41 pm

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Cannibalism.


Which is tough to meet. I think you're going to have to lower your standards there.


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20 Mar 2008, 12:25 am

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Which is tough to meet. I think you're going to have to lower your standards there.


I have faith that she'll show (I'm a positive person). If not, I'm hunky-dory as I'll just gnaw on my arm or something (see: eating oneself to death).

I don't think there's anything more loving than eating your lover [to death].



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20 Mar 2008, 12:45 am

MissConstrue wrote:
Aside from looks, what kinds of things do men look for in a woman?


Like-mindedness and understanding. :)


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20 Mar 2008, 6:52 am

Another thing to add: has sly edges (in well-directed ways at least).

Quite often goes hand in hand with self assurance and self-knowledge though.