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MorningGlory
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13 Mar 2008, 12:28 am

Well, here is my so called situation. My fiancee and I are both Aspies, and are perfectly content being alone together. By this, I mean, we don't care if we don't engage at all in any type of social activities outside of each other. We are getting married soon, and I am moving in with him, and my parents are concerned that I will become more of a recluse than I already am. We don't like going out to the mall, and would much rather rent a movie than have to brave mass hysteria to see it at the theater with the throngs of people herding through the doors. I work and currently attend school, and he works, so it isn't as if there is absolutely no outside ventures. But I was wondering, does anyone else think that our lifestyle could be problematic? I'm already antisocial, but I don't think I can exacerbate it further, or am I wrong??



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13 Mar 2008, 4:29 am

Does being reclusive bother you? Does it cause you any problems or unhappiness?
If it doesn't, I don't see why it should bother your parents.


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13 Mar 2008, 4:43 am

I was housebound for several years with no outside contact; I'm still alive and stepping over ants so I don't squish them on the driveway.

What Who_Am_I said.



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13 Mar 2008, 5:19 am

Who_Am_I wrote:
Does being reclusive bother you? Does it cause you any problems or unhappiness?
If it doesn't, I don't see why it should bother your parents.


I'm with Who_Am_I

Most of us have spent a life time having to adapt, act, try and fit in - so all I can say is good on you for believing in each other and allowing to live the life's you want, not what the NTs dictate..


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13 Mar 2008, 5:44 am

MorningGlory wrote:
Well, here is my so called situation. My fiancee and I are both Aspies, and are perfectly content being alone together. By this, I mean, we don't care if we don't engage at all in any type of social activities outside of each other.


...sounds like heaven.

MorningGlory wrote:
We are getting married soon, and I am moving in with him, and my parents are concerned that I will become more of a recluse than I already am.


tell your parents you are happy, really happy, and that they need not
worry about you.

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13 Mar 2008, 11:34 pm

Thanks to all of you. I have always been perfectly happy being alone. My fiancee is the same way, and like I said, we are completely contented. I know that there will always be people that don't accept my particular way of being, and to be crass, I know they will eventually go away. They always do. I have no friends for this reason, and don't mind! I am not social, period. Heaven, yes. Utter solitude is heaven. My perfect day is reading and cooking. (As long as no one attempts to enter the kitchen, I really hate that!) My parents can not grasp this idea whatsoever. You would think after years of me being this way, and a therapist telling them, "She's just anti-social, but happy in being so" you would think they'd give up. I can't wait to move out. I think you all made any anxiety I had reasonably less.