Ladies: How important is it to you that a man be confident?

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This is an interesting point, and I could probably use some guidance in a very limited sense.
When it comes to going out to dinner, like a lot of other guys I have 7 or 8 places that I like. To be fair, and to deviate from routine, I always ask my wife "where would you like to go?" She often states that she dislikes my penchant for routine when it comes to dining and wants to try new places. OK, so I ask her where she would like to go. When I do ask, she ALWAYS says " I don't know, where do you want to go?" This really confuses me.
However, when I do state, "I want to go for a burger at the Hamlin Pub" or "I want to go to Mr. B's" she shoots down my ideas until we get down to where she ultimately wants to go. Is this more a matter of process over results (i.e., she likes it when I initiate the decision process, however, she still wants to control the outcome)? Or perhaps some other misunderstanding? Whilst a very minor issue, I would truly like to just go to dinner somewhere without a weekly decision battle. I don't mind going to different places, but when I specifically want to go to one of my favorite haunts, she tells me I'm limited, when I defer to her, she doesn't want to choose. Not really a big deal, but something I'm curious about nonetheless...

I think I was too specific. Basically the idea that I'm trying to convey is that I think being a weenie is unattractive. This was just the first example that occurred to me. There's a noticeable difference in attitude between a man who ignores a challenge because the challenge is beneath him (or irrelevant to his interests), and a man who ignores a challenge because he's scared of losing.

There's a noticeable difference in attitude between a man who ignores a challenge because the challenge is beneath him (or irrelevant to his interests)