Do people take a violent dislike to you?

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Not sure this is the right forum, but anyway... Do people that previously got along fine with you ever take a violent dislike to you out of the blue, for no reason (no argument, etc)? Not as in finding it amusing to pick on you, but genuinely disliking you.
It's happened twice to me recently, in both cases with girls, in both cases entirely out of the blue. One of them actually stopped even talking to one of my friends just because said friend invited me to a party she was at. The other, we used to get along well enough for us to invite each other to our respective places for dinner (along with other people, nothing romantic about it), now she will not deign even greet me - completely out of the blue.
This has me feeling depressed for two reasons, one that since most people I get along with are friends with at least one of these girls, I feel the few friendships I have slipping through my fingers. The other is, it makes me think (no offense meant to anyone) that girls are so complicated that there is little point in me even trying to fathom them - which is a problem as I don't have a gf and for some reason I don't tend to make many male friends (when I actually make friends). Having AS makes socialising hard enough, add on top of that being a foreigner (making me more of an outsider) and being at the bottom of the barrel in terms of dating (Third World citizenship, nonwhite, student).

This has happened to me recently. There were reasons behind this (more like one giant misunderstanding), but this one girl has threatened to kill me and will call me horrible names behind my back because she thinks I'm responsible for screwing up her life. Thankfully, though, it has gotten to the point where we will ignore each other in public, but due to the circumstances of the situation, I'd expect her to just be upset at me, not violent! It's not like I did anything wrong either!

It's weird how some things like this happen. If you aren't giving these people any reason to be violent toward you, I'd ignore it. Your Asperger's isn't even a part of this anymore - If they misinterpret everything they hear, then these two girls aren't worth your time.

That's happened to me once, early last year. I don't dwell on it. I think about other things, instead.

Yeah, I figure that even if I got any misunderstanding cleared up, it would just be a matter of time before it happened again, so there's no point. Another possibility is that there is some rumour about me, but if they're not going to tell me to my face if they have issues with me, then it's not worth my time clearing things up.
Somebody has told me that it could be something like me unintentionally staring at them in a way they interpreted as sexual - but frankly, these are white European girls, they didn't just arrive from some Afghan village, so even if they thought they were getting some sexual vibes from me, there's no reason for that to offend them so much. Somebody else suggested to me that maybe they were attracted to me - if they're hysterical like that, then good riddance.
The whole thing makes me angry, sometimes it makes me want to give up on friendship and socialising altogether, but I remember how bad it was when I didn't socialise at all. I guess I'm hypersensitive to rejection.

Yes, seemingly. I talk to people who don't like me all the time, though and I know it. Sometimes it seems "out of the blue" and other times it doesn't.

Life.

I'm shocked because it's never happened to me until recently. I had this guy that I started getting along with real well. He was hillarious with his witty jokes and since of humor but lately after a few months or so he's just been downright mean. He's never been like this before and I've even asked him if there was something going on or something that I did. He somehow avoids the question and does some apologizing and then acts like his apology was a joke. I've never in my life seen people automatically turn on me like that without some reason. I really don't want to have anything to do with him anymore. I've tried to be of some support, but I've given up. He just makes me feel more miserable about myself.

Nobody has to me yet. But isn't this more of a maturity problem with the other person than it is a you-problem?

Of course if they act like a twat to you but not anyone else, then try to find out from others what it is with them (assuming they all haven't turned on you, too)

Yeah, but it still makes me feel bad, and angry. It wouldn't be so bad if I hadn't also just wrecked a friendship (I'm working on making new friends, but sometimes I really don't know why I bother).



I've asked around a little and nobody knows. With one of them, there is one cause can think of (but it's just a guess) - it would imply that she's a racist idiot. With the other one, for the life of me I can't think of anything.