Do your parents try to live through you?

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Ana54
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06 Jun 2008, 10:31 am

My parents dropped out and flunked out of college. They pressured me and pressured me and pressured me to go back to school, but I won't until I'm ready, and if that's only when I'm 50 that's too f*****g bad. How about you?



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06 Jun 2008, 10:34 am

Isn't that what parents are supposed to do?


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06 Jun 2008, 11:10 am

My parents have had a tendency to try to live vicariously through me, so it seems. Maybe this is a natural thing of which all parents are guilty to some extent. I think they've gotten better about it now as I've gotten older. I left home over 12 years ago, after all.



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06 Jun 2008, 11:44 am

They still too often try to overprotect me even though I left the house over 4 years ago and live in a different country than them. But through phones and emails they keep close contact, a bit too close sometimes. I guess I am partially guilty by just talking too openly sometimes, but sometimes overprotection and suffocation are very close to each other. Guess I cannot complain though, I've lived in 5 different countries in the last years and they always tried to helped me when needed and never tried to keep me close to home.


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06 Jun 2008, 11:50 am

They tried, but I was quite rebellious throughout high school, and a few years thereafter. 8) :shrug:


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06 Jun 2008, 6:22 pm

My parents don't really try to live vicariously through me, but my mother is still very protective of me, even though my 30th birthday is next year (mostly because I'm a man-child with a severe case of can't-grow-up syndrome).


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