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nekowafer
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24 Jul 2008, 3:10 am

I find myself telling others way too much about my personal life - sexual or otherwise - than they need to or care to know. I'm aware that they don't need to know it, but for some reason it just pours out of me and I keep going. I can even see that they're either offended, disgusted, or bored, and I still keep going. I also suck at keeping secrets, lying, and setting up surprises, because I can't seem to keep myself from saying something.

I dunno if this is an AS thing or a nekowafer thing. Anyone else do this?



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24 Jul 2008, 3:15 am

Lots of people do this, not just aspies.


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24 Jul 2008, 3:20 am

In the past, yes, I used to always reveal too much.

But then I took a good look at myself and the way people react around me. Then I made the very careful decision to stop being so mindlessly forthcoming. It's hard because I just want to run my damn mouth. But I have to think twice every time I say ANYTHING.



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24 Jul 2008, 3:28 am

Im very discrete :P



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24 Jul 2008, 4:08 am

way too much...



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24 Jul 2008, 4:26 am

I used to do that all the time, but eventually I realized that everytime I did that, the person would run to the hills... Right now it's very difficult for anyone to get any personal data out of me...



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24 Jul 2008, 4:29 am

yes, I reveal too much. :oops:

I remember a comment the husband of an AS wife made here, he said that she speaks from instincts, meaning that she utters her instincts, which was something I hadn't understood before about being a blabbermouth before. It's a big taboo in NT culture.

If anyone has any tips or hints on how not to be so guileless I could use them.



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24 Jul 2008, 5:09 am

I used to do that all the time as well. :cry:



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24 Jul 2008, 5:39 am

I used to do this all the time (and still do if someone asks a straight question) until I finally realised that when someone says something like "How are you today?" the expected answer is "Good!" not "Well it was a bit soggy getting here and there was this person who kept on..." Seriously, it would be so much easier if people would ask such questions only when they actually wanted answers, and otherwise just use statements like "Hello!". I find filtering what I say all day to be tedious and annoying. And unfortunately in the job I am in, nessisary.



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24 Jul 2008, 8:31 am

Yeah, I do, I talk too much about my mental health issues with others, much too everyone's annoyance.



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24 Jul 2008, 9:09 am

I'm sort of paranoid so the answer to your question is no. I tend to be very careful about what I reveal about myself online and in person.



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24 Jul 2008, 9:13 am

Blame the victim Blame the victim No one point the finger at the Paedophiles :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil:
DSick sik sik society evidential



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24 Jul 2008, 9:32 am

I've certainly tried not to say too much but I always do. I've even gone to work before thinking, "I will not babble on about myself today" and it still doesn't work. I somehow forget I said that, or only remember after a conversation is started and someone's actually interested for a minute. It's a part of why my coworker's hated me.



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24 Jul 2008, 9:46 am

I often felt lonely and wanted someone else to talk to and would say too much. I would be fearfull about what I might say now days as I have some thoughts that are not socialy accepted, but I am hoping that this will pass and I have just gained another perspective. I hope I am not saying too much, but I am a good guy, as long as I keep my good sides under control nothing terrible will happen. I remember once while I was a bit talky that I was out of character and over hitting on someone, geez these stupid hormones.


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24 Jul 2008, 10:09 am

SIXLUCY wrote:
Blame the victim Blame the victim No one point the finger at the Paedophiles :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil:
DSick sik sik society evidential


????? 8O



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24 Jul 2008, 12:33 pm

I'm better about it now, but it has taken years
of learning the hard way. Looking back on it,
I think many of the times I have driven people
away from myself was because I said too much.
That and also the way I said it....

Does saying the wrong thing count as saying too much?
I'm guilty of that, too.


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