Positive points of the single life :)

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It’s great to be single. I read a lot of posts in these forums of people wanting to find a significant other to share their life with, but if you really think about it, single can be the best way to go through life. It may seem lonely at times, but think of all of the positives that seem to be necessary in an autie’s or aspie’s life for them to function comfortably.

Here’s my list of positives that have come into my life since becoming single:

No one asks, “Where the hell did you go?” when I come home.

My income has increases due to not leaving the house as often to get away from people at home. I used to take long drives in order for me to find some solitude.

I can pick and choose when I want to be social instead of being coerced into going to social events with family or friends.

I can eat whatever I choose, when ever I choose. (No more “When’s dinner?” or “You know I don’t like that crap.”)

I don’t have to clean up after anyone. There's just me to clean up after.

Ungodly amounts of my time can be spent doing whatever I want without interuption.

I can watch whatever I want on TV. (Yay!)

Right at the moment, the only way I can see myself pairing up with someone is if they kept a considerable amount of distance between the two of us. They would have their own little world, I would have mine. This would definitively mean maintaining two separate residences.

What a fun topic. I've never had the joys of even a boyfriend but this topic has brightened my day! YA TO BEING SINGLE! THANKS!! !! There are some things I like about it being just me.

1)I reiterate cleaning since I don't mind my mess but if you are in my room CLEAN UP YOUR MESS I HATE OTHER PEOPLES MESS!! !! (I don't know why???)

2)Joint stuff (example if my older sister's husband gets his truck muddy she bickers my mom says because it's not just HIS truck it's BOTH of there vehicles plus the money,cleaning etc. NO JOINT STUFF! (house etc.)

3)Cleaning up laundry!! ! (I do this enough with my dad I don't want to do it with a boyfriend!! LOL!)

4)Him wanting to (fish,hunt etc. and me watching the baby MAYBE WHEN HELL FREEZES OVER!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !!)

Those are all I can think of and once again let me say

YA FOR BEING SINGLE!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !

Most girls I know would absolutely detest my taste in music. Being single has the added advantage of me being able to blast out as much industrial and extreme metal as is possible/plausable

You don't have a sig other to say "What is so bloody interesting on the computer ! !?"

You don't have a sig other to say "What is that smell ??"

All good points, all true points, and I've seen (and in fact said) all of them before...

However, the thought of being completely alone for the rest of my life is such a sobering thought that it's worth all the petty material downfalls and socialization. That being said, I probably would lose interest in an overly social woman while being drawn to one that only had a few very good friends, so the problem wouldn't be as bad for me...

The real difficult thing for me about being with someone is having to establish physical and sensory boundaries.... to make sure they know that I CAN'T do, handle or like certain things, not that I WON'T, which is what a lot of people tend to think. Compromise on such things would be really difficult, too, and would likely lead to arguments. It's best to wait for someone with the same kinds of or similar issues to mine that way, or at least somebody very understanding of others' limits.

You tell me the advantage of being single and I will tell you the advance of having a tooth ache instead of spending £300 on dental treatment.
You can spend that money on
• A second hand car such as an Escort
• A holiday to Turkey
• A night with a Prostitute

The list goes on. It sounds good on paper but in reality if the pain is that bad, you would rather spend it on dental treatment then go to the blimin moon.

A holiday to Turkey?

Personally I would never vacation in any Arab country.

How I see it.

No relationship is way better than a bad relationship.

A good relationship is better than no relationship.