Why does social sadism seem to be acceptable to most people?

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ASPartOfMe
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10 Nov 2015, 1:19 am

I can't agree with the OP. Humans tend to remember and publicize the negative a lot more then the positive or things that have a mixture of negative and positive. This leaves an overinflated perception of negativity.


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10 Nov 2015, 1:34 am

I am reading an interesting book called Bullied by Carry Goldman and she talks about what causes it. I found out it's stereotypes that kids pick up on from society so they think it has to be that way, it's also the things parents say like if they see a fat person walking so they say "Oh look at how fat she is, that is so gross" the child learns being fat isn't okay. kids are watching so they bully what is different and what they taught was wrong from parents and society. So basically people are unintentionally turning their kids into bullies. Also the "kids will be kids" crap also teaches them it's okay to bully and pick on others because it's "normal." I don't think people understand that just because something is normal doesn't make it okay. Yeah it's normal for a two year old to bite and hit but that doesn't make it okay. They still get a consequence but I have seen people let their kids be little monsters and then go "Oh he is only three" as an excuse. Even my own mom did that about other kids when they would do mean things to me. All that did was taught me that it's okay for them to do it so it made me wonder what bad behavior can I do at my age. Why wasn't I ever getting "Oh she is only seven" when I would do something bad if someone complained about my behavior? I even thought at nine it was okay for these kids to make fun of me and be mean to me for how I talked because they were in second grade, that was the excuse my mom gave me for their behavior. Then I never wanted to be around these kids ever again and I would get very uncomfortable if I had to be near them because I always thought they were going to make fun of me again. I was expected to get over it and get told "That was in the third grade" but that is like telling a rape victim "That was in high school" or telling a family whose kid was murdered "That was in 1976" and expecting them to not hod it against them anymore and see them as a different person because that was so long ago right? :roll:


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11 Nov 2015, 1:15 am

I know quite a few autistic kiddos whose parents bully them. Some I now see without a doubt are developing or have already developed C-PTSD, no doubt. Interestingly enough, they call it parenting. Of course, they are also the ones who scream when their child get bullied, go figure. They also will do it to adults on the spectrum, I have experienced it many times. I now have told them all to take a hike.



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13 Nov 2015, 2:23 am

ASPartOfMe wrote:
I can't agree with the OP. Humans tend to remember and publicize the negative a lot more then the positive or things that have a mixture of negative and positive. This leaves an overinflated perception of negativity.


I'm the OP and I agree with you. I wasn't in a very good mood when I created this thread and I'm a little embarrassed that it's been bumped so often.