Women Prejudging by Appearance?

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Yes, being a male angler fish would suck.

Yes, that's what the article said.

Women tend to be less visual when it comes to sizing up men. That DOESNT mean that a Mans appearance is irrelevant but it does mean that She's looking for a LOT of other things besides a bodacious bod. What I know is as far as looks go women judge men primarily on their height and bodyweight, and some girls in their teens and early 20s like muscular guys but Ive found most educated women arent that interested in buff guys. As long as you dont actively stand out visually in a way that makes you seem creepy and/or low status OR you're waaaay out of shape I think appearance is something many women will overlook in favor of social skills and body language.

Already covered.


Everything in bold type addresses the "Pleasant to be around?" question from different perspectives, which is important when dealing with detail-oriented, literal-minded people such as yourself.

The lack of money makes a person irrelevant, at least when it comes to relationships. All alse being equal, people would rather be in a relationship with someone who has money than with someone who doesn't - money itself is always relevant.

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""money itself is always relevant""

Sad and true. So harsh is the world today, cant
escape the moneyside of things, its everywhere.

...well of course. That's an insanely obvious thing to say. That's like saying 'ell else being equal, they'll go with the person they think is sexier.' It's a no-brainer. It's not an indication of societal downfall or anything.

It's a no-brainer ... you know it, I know it, and anyone with any common sense knows it. Yet, there are still people who claim that money is irrelevant in a relationship.

Speculation: Maybe they are so reluctant to admit it about themselves that they deny even the possibility that it could be true at all.

Well it's not ALWAYS relevant though. People aren't entirely based on logic. I was referring to your scenario, which was all other circumstances equal, they'd go for the one with more money.

I have boldfaced the ones that don't apply to me (although some of the rest are a matter of opinion to an extent). Most of these things don't come up when you meet someone for the first time. I really haven't had very many instances in my life where I've interacted with a woman on multiple separate occasions.

I'm not extremely rugged, but I am definitely not effeminate in my appearance. I don't think women worry about this. I just think they expect me to know what I'm doing socially.

Yes that is plausible. I have experienced this. I am told that I am good looking, women I have slept with all tell me I have a hot body, etc. but I am also told that I am pretty socially awkward around people I don't know. I think a lot of women want a guy who is superior in all areas, ie has the looks/body, job/money/prestige, but also has the abundance of social skills. If you saw me after a new haircut with my nice clothes, you'd think it's some player guy/athlete who has it easy with women, but I'm more of a quiet/intelligent guy who plays games and spends a lot of time alone. When women realize what I'm really like, the interest cools off a bit it seems. I can only be me though.

Well has anyone taken a look as to how I dress? It's like the cologne from Anchorman. 60% of the time it works all the time. Except it almost never works, but I'm okay with that.

That is what I have found, you have to be better than them. Bigger, older, stronger, smarter, etc.. I totally agree.

You're both referring to the "Alpha Male" archetype.

No, being a male spider would Suck(for sure)!

I've yet to meet two women who necessarily look for the same things in a guy, let alone any women who adhere so rigidly to dating the alpha-male type of guys. If that is what so many of you are noticing, that probably says more about you and the sort of people you associate with. Most people look to date within their particular niche in society. If you listen to mainstream music, watch big Hollywood movies, and don't read, you're probably going to attract people with similarly "safe" interests, which typically means people who try to meet societal expectations and trends. Part of that for guys means being muscular and financially stable. If you fall more on the fringes of that, it's easier to meet people who have developed different preferences.

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