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PrisonerSix
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16 Sep 2008, 12:37 pm

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My mom also accused me of being a loner when I answered a question regarding where I eat in college. I told him most of the time I eat in my room, even though I occasionally eat in the dining hall. She told that it makes me a loner.

Then tell me, why do I often times go to my anime society meetings and anime conventions, also I usually go out in the city once a week?

Seriously, why some loners like me are the ones who don't get in trouble, while those who socialize (read: nightly vist to the bar and drink beer) get into trouble.


You bring up a vary valid issue, one that I've dealt with myself. I've been criticized because my socialization comes from a computer club, ham radio, in the past I was in a science fiction club, gone to science fiction conventions, and so on. To me, that is socializing with people you have a common interest with done in the amount you choose, is the best kind. In college, I didn't like to go out much but my sister did, so my parents would force me to go places with her and her friends, and I'd end up bored, miserable, just sitting there like a bump on a log.

I was glad when she finallly left home and I could just do my thing in peace. What made less sense was when my sister wasn't home, my parents had no problem with what I did at all, only when she was there. They were the same way about fun, as I found geeky activities that I enjoyed doing. My parents said I needed to have more "fun," and what I did wasn't "fun." I thought what was fun was up to the individual but they didn't see it that way, they thought only certain activities were "fun" and I had to do them so I could have "fun," yet I was often miserable when I did them. All they said is that I'd learn to enjoy them.

NTs can be totally insane in my opinion.


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16 Sep 2008, 1:31 pm

Prisonersix, your experiences sum up the norm marvellously.


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18 Sep 2008, 4:03 pm

I mostly stick to online friends, nothing wrong with being alone. 8O



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18 Sep 2008, 4:06 pm

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Being a loner is great, they are always being mentioned in the newspaper!


You mean the kind, that they always say things about like, "he was a loner, but a nice guy who kept to himself and never bothered anyone" after they found the 17 hacked up bodies in his mum's refrigerator?


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19 Sep 2008, 5:29 am

Liverbird wrote:
Inventor wrote:
Being a loner is great, they are always being mentioned in the newspaper!


You mean the kind, that they always say things about like, "he was a loner, but a nice guy who kept to himself and never bothered anyone" after they found the 17 hacked up bodies in his mum's refrigerator?


Introversion = evil, apparently.


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19 Sep 2008, 9:37 am

Ishmael wrote:
Prisonersix, your experiences sum up the norm marvellously.


Nice to know I'm not alone. I like your avatar as well, I'm a long time Dr. Who fan. When I was in college, Dr. Who was showing every Saturday night on a local TV channel. I wanted to watch it, but my sister had taken to going to college football games and the result was she and our parents would gang up on me and pressure me to go with her. Some times her friends would have parties and the same thing would happen, in fact, her friends never even asked me if I wanted to go, they ask my sister and she'd accept for me. It was very hard for me to deal with, especially since my parents promised me my sister would be gone away to graduate school and I wouldn't have deal with her anymore, but she decided not to go and stayed home for 2 more years.

She did finally leave home, and I was pretty much free to do what I wanted again since she wasn't there. In other words, Dr. Who every Saturday night without fear of what she wanted to do. Of course she came back and everything reverted to the way it was, then she left again and it was fine. I never understood why my preferences were OK when she was gone, but wrong when she was there. More NT weirdness I guess.


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19 Sep 2008, 10:22 am

Not everyone likes to be social. I know I don't! Just not comfortable in social situations. I prefer to be alone. But that's ok by me!


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