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I am very good at mimicking others, even NTs
I do that too. Often using a line from a TV programme or movie. Trouble is, it's not always turned out to be the right thing to say.
But one experience made me wonder - a friend had mentioned a guy who he said had acted like a pain in the butt by turning up, hanging about, and saying "do you know what it's like to be really depressed?" I instantly added this remark to my list of things not to say if you want people to like you. But years later, for some reason I went and dropped out the same question to somebody else. I'd been feeling confident as that particular friendship had been growing quite nicely, and I guess I wanted to see, just for the hell of it, what would happen if I dared to say that. The reply was "yes, I have," and the friendship grew stronger as a result of my question.
For some time, I couldn't make head nor tail of it - how could saying the exact same thing put somebody off in one case, and drawi them towards you in another? Best answer I know is that there's really no such thing as a good or bad remark. It depends on who you're talking to, and on the
context. I don't know which is the most remarkable - that discovery, or the fact that I see it as so remarkable
Are these things simply trivial and obvious to NTs? It's as though my behaviour had learned the lesson before my intellect caught up.