Last night I was talking to a girl I just met. She says that a girl shouldn't start cuddling a guy if he doesn't like her. I said, "What if he does like her but doesn't say it?" I'll give you an example:
There are two people named John and Mary who are presumed to be friends. Mary is developing a crush on John. According to my friend, Mary shouldn't cuddle John unless she's sure he likes her. My friend says that if John liked Mary he would cuddle her. I said, "But you told me people shouldn't cuddle unless they know the other person likes them. Here is the rest of our conversation as follws:
Her: That rule only applies to girls
Me: Oh, I get it. In our society men are expected to initiate things. The guy is supposed to ask the girl out not the other way around. Men are supposed to propose marriage. The only time a woman can propose is on Leap Year Day February 29th.
Her: I think that's stupid. A woman should be able to proposeany time, not just once every four years.
Me: Do you also think girls can ask guys out instead of waiting to be asked?
Her: sure
Me: So let me get this straight. You think it's okay for women to buck tradition and ask guys out and propose to them. But you still don't think that a girl should cuddle unless the guy starts it first?
At this point my friend tells me that I must have been born without the "girl gene". She says these are things that girls "just know." This baffled me. I understand basic rules of courtesy. Don't be rude, don't hit people etc. But it seems that there are so many arbitrary rules out there. So what's your opinion? Do you think she's right that girls can ask guys out, propose, but not initiate cuddling? I'm so confused.