How the bleep am I supposed to deal with a snorer?

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11 Dec 2008, 10:55 am

I am talking about my dad. His snoring is loud enough I can hear it from my bedroom 10-20 feet away when both bedroom doors are open. Now, I need to leave my bedroom door open because it gets extremely stuffy in here otherwise; stuffy enough that its just as hard to sleep as listening to that awful sound. My parents don't give a crap, so they agree to keep their door closed. But one or the other always forgets to close it all the way. I can hear the snoring if the door is open even a crack. SO I always have to ****ing get up in the middle of the night and close it for them.

But it gets worse. There are some nights where his snoring is so bad that even close their bedroom door isn't enough. I actually have to grab a desk fan out of my closet and leave it blowing in my room (even though its winter) just to cancel out the sound.

My dad refuses to do anything about it and when I hear something on radio or TV like PureSleep or something else, he finds some excuse for why it won't work for him.

I know some people probably don't see it as a big deal. But even the faintest sound of snoring is so frustrating to me that I'm about ready to whack that nearly 400 pound slob senseless.



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11 Dec 2008, 11:01 am

Woah, sorry bout this. Must be really frustrating. I was initially going to ask you if he was aware of his snoring, however he obviously is if he is refusing to wear any aids. It's not hard to get those these days either. Do you wear earplugs? I always wore these when my Dad lived with me!


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11 Dec 2008, 11:02 am

Earplugs.


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11 Dec 2008, 11:22 am

Plug your iPod or other MP3 player in and listen to it through headphones... You can play the music as loud as you need to stop the sound and the music takes your mind off the snoring, too.

I do this cause I have similar problem whenever I go on holiday.

Newer iPods have a feature where you can set it to turn it off after a certain time so you dont waste too much power, too. I got that on my iPhone and iPod touch, anyway.



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11 Dec 2008, 3:30 pm

it's his house, he can do what he wants.


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11 Dec 2008, 3:36 pm

My Mp3 player partially resolves any noise related problem.


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11 Dec 2008, 3:52 pm

Earplugs, mp3/ipods, etc. cause as much problem as they solve. I had a set of earplugs once, but they also make me feel stuffed up (place your fingers in your ears and attempt to breath through your nose as you normally would and you will see what I mean) not to mention ears aching when I wake up. I finally threw them away after having so much earwax build up deep into my ear canal that I had to go to a doctor to flush it out. So yeah, FORGET earplugs or anything I have to stick into my ears for that matter.



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11 Dec 2008, 4:14 pm

Have had problems with sounds before, i
soundproofed the room a little, the room
i wanted it to quiet in, or if possible the
place the noise originates from. Took a
little work but it worked good. Tried ear
plugs a few times but its just to "small",
i need more space. And if i sleep with
earplugs and the firealarm goes off
due to fire......i`m roast 8O So if
soundproofing a bedroom, always!
put in a smoke detector thats linked
to other detecors in the house and
goes off if the others goes off.
muy importante



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11 Dec 2008, 5:22 pm

depends if parents would agree to it or not,but what about buying them/getting someone to fit a fire door with a door closer on in their bedroom-as these are more solid than normal doors,and the door closer would make sure it always closes,the metal things can be loosened so they dont slam fast.

QFT what ImTheGuyThatDidThat said about sound proofing.
though will probably not have enough money for the propper stuff unless have money saved away,there are other ways which are supposed to give some help to lowering sound a bit.
egg cartons all over the walls with thick carpet on ceiling if am remember correctly-is one.


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11 Dec 2008, 5:26 pm

CRACK wrote:
Earplugs, mp3/ipods, etc. cause as much problem as they solve. I had a set of earplugs once, but they also make me feel stuffed up (place your fingers in your ears and attempt to breath through your nose as you normally would and you will see what I mean) not to mention ears aching when I wake up. I finally threw them away after having so much earwax build up deep into my ear canal that I had to go to a doctor to flush it out. So yeah, FORGET earplugs or anything I have to stick into my ears for that matter.

Then your only lawful recourse may be to move out and get a place of your own. That way, you can dictate to your guests house they may sleep, and whether or not they will be allowed to snore.


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11 Dec 2008, 7:59 pm

Earplugs work for me. I started wearing them because I used to travel with two guys who would snore horrendously. The only way to afford hotels was if I shared the cost with them.

To avoid pushing wax down, two things are required.
1. Roll the earplug to the proper shape before putting it in your ear - start using a new pair if the old ones no longer temporarily hold their shape after rolling (you are buying them in bulk, aren't you?).
2. Put it in only far enough so that the outer end of the plug can rest against the exterior flap (tragus) of your ear.
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12 Dec 2008, 8:44 am

886 wrote:
it's his house, he can do what he wants.
Yeah, but it's not that simple is it?

We're dealing with an Aspie here, and many Aspies have sensory issues.

What might be just mildly irritating for an NT, or even a different Aspie, could be, to this particular Aspie, something that sends them to the edge of reason.

Y'know how some people can't bear the sound of nails scraping down a blackboard, or cutlery squeaking or clattering across a plate...? Some people find such fleeting noises unbearable, and it sets their teeth on edge. Now imagine if that kind of thing sent you batty and imagine if it went on for about eight hours...

Sound bombardment techniques are used as psy-ops, like when they play Barney the dinosaur and other music over and over again, because military forces know that it has an adverse impact on people.

So it's not just a matter of 'it's just a bit of snoring, what's your beef?' - for some Aspies such noise can present a sensory issue, and even NTs can be driven to distraction by intermittent or occasional sounds, and military services use sound in their torture techniques.



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12 Dec 2008, 3:33 pm

Hmm, I find that turning a radio talk show on at fairly low noise helps... Loud enough so that you can hear people talking, but not really make out what they are saying..



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12 Dec 2008, 5:28 pm

The solution is simple. Wait until he is asleep and starts snoring, then get two ear plugs and shove one up each of his nostrils!


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12 Dec 2008, 7:01 pm

My father snores too. I just recently shared a hotel room with him, and it was difficult to get to sleep because he was grumbling away. He wears something on his nose that is supposed to unblock the nasal passageways, but it doesn't always work.

Sorry to hear that snoring is so frustrating for you. I'd highly recommend earplugs. They wax ones work really well. I used them for a while when I was living right next to the kitchen in our flat, and could hear pots and pans banging around every time my housemates started fixing a late night meal. They do take a little getting used to, though. At first I found it hard to sleep with the earplugs in because of the sound of my own heart.



12 Dec 2008, 8:35 pm

I can relate real easily. Snoring also gets to me. I cannot ignore it, no matter how hard I try. I don't understand how others can tolerate it. I am able to sleep with the radio on, music, fan, but not snoring. Even I don't understand myself sometimes.

When I hear my boyfriends snore in the other room, I turn on the fan. When I stayed in Montana, I could hear my parents snoring in the room below me despite the door being closed. So I had to play some music.