Letum wrote:
sinsboldly wrote:
I am not sure why everyone is taking this 'sex coupon' thing so seriously. It is for fun, sex can be playful and little games between two people can be very intimate and part of the act itself. In my several marriages I found making sex playful and loving really helped the quality of the marriage.
What ever else it is, it shouldn't be a barging tool, a coupon to exchange in order to manipulate the behavior of the other person however one see fit.
I don't like the idea of someone having sex for any reason at all, other than they wanted to. Especially not because they feel they owe someone 'sex coupons'.
Agreed. Making a game out of it is one thing, as long as both partners agree to play it... but in general, I'm against the idea of sex being used as a reward system for "good behavior." I'm also against the idea of it being someone's "duty" to have sex with their spouse, which is why I really dislike the term "putting out." In my opinion, sex should only happen because both participants WANT it to happen at that time, not because of some bargain or contract. I know that some people don't see it this way, but that's how I see it.
31 Dec 2008, 11:02 am
