Why do some men cheat?

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Cheating is whatever you want it to mean. I heard one girl say guns are cheating when it comes to war. Surely most people don't think that. So if this guy doesn't think its cheating unless its marriage, then so be it. that's what he thinks. Sure, he kind of has a point, but only in the legal sense. Since he isn't looking for a commitment, then cheating is fair game to him. Whatever. Not everybody wants commitment.

To the OP I recommend this post:
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp1945148.html#1945610

Beefy, if you seeing one girl and screwing another one it's cheating on the first one and vice versa when you're having sex with the first one. Committment is not in play. We can extend this exponentially to hundreds of relationships. When you're with one then you're not with another. Thats math, not human nature.

Although im against cheating, some men enjoy the variety of different women and it boosts their ego.

I would never cheat. I could not do it, it's just too low.

I wouldn't cheat and never have simply because it's against my morals. Do unto others as you would have done unto you. If I am in a monogamous relationship then I would expect that my partner wouldn't cheat on me and I wouldn't cheat on them. Of course there are all sorts of reasons that people do cheat on each other. Like anything people can be selfish but I think it comes down to self-discipline. There have been many times where I have been tempted but so far I've managed to resist. If you're not happy in a relationship and you feel like you are going to cheat then why don't you just break up with the person? Most often it comes down to selfishness and cowardliness but then we are all human.

it's not fair to generalize about men. but i
think 'coz of human nature there'll never be a
man who will be100% non-cheater unless he's lacking
in some aspect which invariably makes it improbable for
him to cheat. idk if it makes sense, but if a man is able
and capable, despite whatever, he'll surely cheat.
just my opinion.

'Cheating' is a word I see getting thrown around all over the place when it comes to polyamory or promiscuity within what is assumed by one partner to be a monogamous pairing, and just semantically, I don't like it.

However, from an emotional standpoint, sexually roaming while giving an impression that there is committed monogamy is opportunistic 'dirty play'. If the other person is trying very hard to reach a goal of a fully committed long term relationship and their chosen mate presents a ruse, that's very likely to be manipulative. Some people do this to keep one stable option available for themselves. I guess in the bigger biological picture it's had its time and place, and still does. But when it's concerning the emotional health and stability of another person, as a practice it comes under fire.

If you commit, you have a non-verbal contract. Sure, you can break it, along with the trust of your partner. But why? Why hurt them when you could simply state from the get-go that your intentions are to not be stably, sexually monogamous? I think it would take blatant disregard for the other person's emotions to trick them in the way I've stated.

In my own value-based opinion, it's disgusting. Empathically, I could never do that to someone else, even if I was vindictive (and I've had opportunities). I state how I feel and my intentions so as to avoid unnecessary pain by the other person.

I am in a fully committed relationship with a more or less non-verbal pact that we do not screw around with others. I'm not married. Marriage is only a legal contract and a way for us to co-exist in society as a legally recognized; why would it make any difference in our personal commitment to each other thus? Commitment is an arbitrary concept, and either marriage or non-marriage contracts exist in the mind, and the power of either is subjective.